With men outnumbering women almost 3 to 1 on this popular dating app, the attractive women can afford to be selective. Whether you're looking for a committed relationship or a hookup, if you want to get the most out of Tinder, you’ve got to show her why you’re better than the competition flooding her inbox.
We’ve compiled the 11 best Tinder hacks from around the internet so you can optimize your profile and messaging, and get her to say “yes” to a date.
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Tinder Hack #1: Treat Your Bio Like An Advertisement
Tinder expert Blake Jamieson says the best ads are memorable because they grab your attention immediately, and he recommends applying the same principles to your bio.
An easy-to-skim bio like this example highlights a few attractive traits builds intrigue and compels her to keep reading:
Compare the bio above to this one:
Which guy do you think she'd rather exchange messages with?
Click here for more examples of Tinder bios that work.
Tinder Hack #2: Message Her First
Dating consultant CamMi Pham once got 2,015 matches in 17 hours, and found that only 25-30% of the guys initiated contact. So unless CamMi sent a message first, 70% of her matches on the dating app went nowhere.
Don’t let your matches fizzle on any of the apps you use. Grabbing the reigns and sending an icebreaker message is one of the easiest ways to stand out on Tinder!
Make the first few words of your conversation starter count – that’s all she’ll see while scrolling through her inbox, so if it doesn’t hook her attention she’s already moved on to the next guy.
Tinder Hack #3: “Like” More Pages On Facebook
Tinder shows which Facebook pages you and your potential matches both like. So take online dating expert James Hawver's advice and spend a little time on Facebook liking the pages of all the TV shows, movies, music, authors, books, companies, etc., that you’re a fan of.
This increases the odds of having things in common with your matches, and mutual interests can cause more women to swipe right on your profile. Plus, whatever interests you share with a match can make for great conversation starters.
One caveat – this could accidentally backfire if you blindly liking pages en masse, as are good those topics may come up in her messages. It's more useful to make sure your are actually things you enjoy.
Tinder Hack #4: Be Instantly Likeable
Women typically don’t spend a lot of time deliberating over the direction they’ll swipe on dating apps like Tinder.
In fact, it’s literally a split second decision – women take about 1/10th of a second to form an opinion of you based on your photograph.
Including certain elements in your photos can shift the odds of a right swipe in your favor. Dating expert Molly Fedick suggests holding a cute puppy if you want to experience a surge in matches. Shirtless mirror selfies, on the other hand, might lead to more left swipes.
Tinder Hack #5: Have Female Friends Choose Your Photos
Getting feedback on your pictures is essential. Grab your selection of pics and have your female friends rate them. Not only does this weed out all the weak ones, but it also lets you choose the best 3-5 photos.
Use the most popular one as your primary picture.
You can also upload your potential pictures to a website like PhotoFeeler, and get feedback that way. The more women who chime in, the better.
Tinder's Smart Photos feature can be useful because it rotates each photo into the primary position and determines your most popular photo based on how each one performs – but keep in mind it could just determine the best of the worst if all your photos are weak.
For even more tips on choosing the best online dating photos, click here.
Tinder Hack #6: Get A Feel For The Convo
Just because she’s wearing a Broncos jersey in one of her profile pictures doesn’t mean she wants to have an in-depth discussion about the latest news out of training camp, warns longtime dating coach Nick Savoy.
If you’re talking about a topic that’s interesting to you, but you’re only getting brief responses, it’s time to take the conversation in a different direction. Check out these 10 great questions to ask a girl online for inspiration.
Tinder Hack #7: Ask Her Out – The Right Way
Here at VIDA, we’ve learned that suggesting coffee or drinks is the best way to ask her out.
Our team of online dating experts analyzed thousands of online conversations that resulted in dates for our male clients, and giving her two activity options doubled the acceptance rate.
Coffee is a casual 30-minutes, whereas if you suggest dinner and a movie, she’s going to worry about being stuck with you for hours if things don’t look promising.
Also, suggesting a latte means you can avoid the “Tinder Food Stamp” date, where women use the app solely as a way score free dinner and have zero interest in pursuing a relationship.
Tinder Hack #8: Suggest A Public Place
So put her mind at ease right away by suggesting a public place, and ask her to meet you there rather than offering to pick her up. If she feels comfortable about the situation, she’s far more likely to say “Yes”.
Tinder Hack #9: Don't Always Swipe Right
Tinder's algorithm punishes users for swiping right 100% of the time, so your swiping needs to go both ways.
Or just upgrade to Tinder Gold. You can see all the Tinder users who have already “liked” you, and that means a right swipe = instant match.
Tinder Hack #10: Get Her Number Early
Women don’t give their numbers away to all their matches; if she’ll give it to you, it’s a good indication she’s interested in a date. Getting her number early in the interaction ensures that you’ll still be able to contact her in case she suddenly deletes her profile.
Tinder Hack #11: Leave It To The Pros!
Of course, the best hack of them all is outsourcing Tinder to the dating experts. No more spending hours on your phone, endlessly swiping in search of people with long-term relationship potential. Let us handle it – all you do is show up for the date with incredible people who match all your ideal criteria!