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Ultimate NYC Matchmaker Guide: 11 Best Matchmakers & Cost

New York may be the city that never sleeps, but it can be surprisingly difficult to meet the kind of high-quality people you’d think about dating, let alone find your soulmate.

And when you don’t have much time left over in your day for the care and feeding of your Bumble and Match profiles... no wonder you’re considering hiring a NYC matchmaker! Now you just have to decide which one...

Don't worry - what you're about to read will make curating your short list a lot easier.

From the small boutique operators to the big industry players, we've reviewed over 200 matchmaking services. Our insight comes from 14+ years of first-hand industry experience, comprehensive research, real customer reviews, and a deep understanding of the matchmaking landscape.

Start your search with at-a-glance information on 11 of the best NYC matchmakers!

VIDA Select

VIDA Select matchmaker

One of the most affordable matchmakers in NYC, VIDA Select’s modern approach to finding love may just be the easiest way to meet your perfect match. Founded by Scott Valdez in 2009, VIDA Select's team has helped thousands of singles meet their ideal partner.


Men and women typically in their 30s to 50s.


VIDA Select offers 3 levels of matchmaking service - Basic, Premium and Elite. Package prices are highly aligned with how many hours should be used each month to find high-quality, compatible singles. All packages are paid by the month and include unlimited matches.

Basic packages start at only $1095/month. Premium options begin at $1695/month, and Elite packages start at $2595/month. On average, clients meet someone special in only 3 months.

What To Expect

VIDA provides a dating service tailored to fit your busy schedule.

With access to the single largest database of high-quality NYC singles, you’ll get unlimited dates with incredible matches you pre-approve. And with VIDA’s pay-as-you-go model, you’re only paying for the time you need - no long-term contract required.


Enamour NYC matchmaking

Enamour has been providing elite matchmaking services to accomplished and discerning NYC singles for over a decade.


Enamour caters to relationship-minded professionals who are looking for a more bespoke matchmaking experience.


Packages begin around $20,000, with each client's membership tailored to fit their search criteria and requirements.

What To Expect

Each Enamour client is paired with a dedicated matchmaker, who will learn about their preferences and desired traits in a partner.

Using a mix of relationship psychology and advanced technology, Enamour's team carefully curates potential matches from their invite-only database, ensuring that they are highly compatible.

After each date, clients have the opportunity to provide and receive feedback, which helps the matchmaker refine their search as needed. Enamour's matchmakers work tirelessly to ensure that their clients find the perfect partner, taking into account all their unique needs and preferences.

Serious Matchmaking

Professional matchmakers Janis and Carly Spindel

Mother/daughter matchmaking team Janis & Carly Spindel own one of the most high-end dating services in NYC. Janis Spindel launched Serious Matchmaking back in 1993.


Successful men seeking a long-term relationship.


$25,000 to $350,000+ to work with Carly. $50,000 to $1,000,000 to work with Janis, making her one of NYC’s true millionaire matchmakers. Want both of them in on the search? That level of service runs you a minimum of $80,000.

Serious Matchmaking clients pay a signing fee that starts at $65,000, and it’s paid up front. The same amount will also be due as a finder’s fee in the event you get engaged, move in with, or date a match for 12 months.

If you don’t want to sign a 1-year contract, you can opt for the $6,000 “Flash Match” package. This includes an introduction by Carly to 6 hand-selected women during a single evening at an upscale NYC venue.

The matchmaking process for most women differs. Women pay a one-time screening fee, typically between $250-$1250. That buys a chance to join the database of eligible singles but inclusion requires passing the interview process.

What To Expect

Potential clients meet with Janis or Carly, where they get to know you over the course of a lunch or dinner. Once you’ve selected a membership package, you’ll pay the matchmaking fee upfront and the search will begin. You can expect 12 introductions in 12 months.

For more information, check out these Serious Matchmaking reviews.

Agape Match

Agape Match website

One of Manhattan’s most well-known boutique matchmakers, Agape Match founder Maria Avgitidis works with men as paying clients. She launched her NYC matchmaking service in 2009.


Men in their mid 20s to mid 60s.


Matchmaking programs begin at $25,000 for 6 months and include a minimum of 6 matches.

Agape Match also offers date coaching sessions, starting around $10,000.

What To Expect

You’ll meet with Maria face to face for the initial consultation, then she’ll match you with women in their database. (Women can join her database for free, and wait to be matched with paying clients.)

When she finds someone she thinks you’ll like, you’ll receive some biographical information prior to the date they’ll arrange for you. After you provide first date feedback, they’ll arrange the second date for you.

For more information, check out this Agape Match review.

Ambiance Matchmaking

Leslie Wardman Ambiance Matchmaking

Leslie Wardman’s elite matchmaking service is headquartered on the opposite coast, but has expanded from San Francisco to locations around the US - including an office in New York City. Ambiance Matchmaking was founded in 2002.


Men and women, typically in their early 30s to early 60s.


Matchmaking service ranges from $25,000 to $100,000+. Package cost is determined in part by whether you’d like your search to be local, national, or international.

What To Expect

Ambiance Matchmaking is a boutique-style dating agency, meaning Wardman and her staff take on a limited roster of paying clients; typically 20 clients at one time.

After a successful interview, you’ll sign a contract for 12 months of matchmaking service, plus up to a year’s worth of “pause” time. Clients are typically introduced to 1 or 2 matches every month.

Potential matches are identified from among the 10,000+ singles in the Ambiance database. Each potential match is then further screened and interviewed to make sure they fit the client's "must have" criteria, and vice versa. First dates are then arranged with compatible matches.

To learn more about this elite service, check out this Ambiance Matchmaking review.

Modern Love Club

NYC matchmaker Amy Van Doran

The self-proclaimed “coolest matchmaker in NYC”, professional matchmaker Amy Van Doran launched the boutique matchmaking service in 2008. They continue to work in small volume, only taking on up to 16 clients at a time. As a client of Modern Love Club, you can expect a personalized approach to finding and attracting a secure and fulfilling romantic connection.


Van Doran describes her clientele as "self-actualizing humans seeking a hyper-curated approach to their love life."


Curated matchmaking costs start at $30,000.

What To Expect

Potential clients book an in-depth interview and consultation about the current state of their love life and romantic history, desired search, and lifestyle. If a Modern Love Club matchmaker thinks you’re a good fit for their exclusive matchmaking service, you have the opportunity to be matched within their network of exclusive NYC singles.

Modern Love Club actively searches for impressive individuals who are open to a romantic connection and invites them to join their database.

To learn more about the curated, intentional matchmaking service for amazing New Yorkers, check out these Modern Love Club reviews.

Three Day Rule

Three Day Rule NYC matchmakers

It’s headquartered in Los Angeles, but Three Day Rule is a popular professional matchmaking company in NYC too. Matchmaker Talia Goldstein launched it in 2013.


Men and women in their mid 20s to mid 60s.


$5,900 for 3 months, during which you’ll receive at least 3 matches. $9,500 for 6 months, which includes at least 6 matches.

There's also a VIP membership option, which starts at $18,500 and includes 6 months of matchmaking services. Both of the 6-month membership options also include a professional photo shoot.

People can join the database for free, and wait to be matched with paying clients.

What To Expect

Matchmaking clients are introduced to other members in the database of local singles. TDR is also partnered with OkCupid,, JDate and ChristianMingle, so they’ll search for suitable matches on those online dating sites and dating apps as well. Matchmakers also recruit people to join the database from places like Whole Foods and various local events.

When potential dates are located you'll check out their profiles - including pictures. If you’re interested, you’ll be given your match’s contact information, so it’s up to you to initiate contact.

Want to learn more? Check out these Three Day Rule reviews.

Amy Laurent

NYC matchmaker Amy Laurent

This executive matchmaker is bi-coastal, with offices in NYC, Los Angeles and Florida. Amy Laurent only takes on up to 30 paying clients at one time. She started her matchmaking service back in 2005.

A celebrity matchmaker of sorts, she starred in Bravo Network's reality show "Miss Advised," which chronicled the daily lives of 3 single relationship experts.


Men seeking serious relationships.


$25,000+ for 1 year, with no guaranteed number of matches.

What To Expect

Prospective clients must first have an hour-long interview with Amy, where you’ll discuss things like what type of person you’re hoping to meet, as well as your personal relationship and dating history. If this New York matchmaker takes you on as a client, she’ll pull suitable matches from her database.

After checking out the photos and descriptions, Amy will arrange dates with any of the matches you’re interested in. You’ll be meeting people who have responded to her advertising campaigns, or whom she’s met at events around NYC and recruited.

For more information about this elite matchmaker, check out these Amy Laurent reviews.

NYCity Matchmaking

NYC Matchmaking website

Started by a lawyer turned “love headhunter/Chief Love Officer,” Michelle Frankel specializes in matching NYC singles but also works with a national and international network of matchmakers. She founded NYC Matchmaking in 2012.


Men and women in their 20s to 60s wanting a range of relationships from dating to marriage.


$7,500+ for 6 months of matchmaking services. $5,000 for 6 months of date coaching. $500 for 6 months of online dating help.

The mandatory preliminary interview costs an additional $300 in person, or $150 remotely.

What To Expect

This boutique matchmaker generally only takes on 10-12 clients at any one time.

After meeting with her for the initial interview, you’ll be presented with compatible matches from the free member database. The NYCity Matchmaking team also recruits singles from places like events, art openings, sports games, etc, or from Michelle’s network of affiliated matchmakers.

For even more details, check out this NYCity Matchmaking review!

Lisa Ronis Matchmaking

Lisa Ronis Matchmaking website

Founded by fashion industry veteran Lisa Ronis in 2000, Lisa Ronis Matchmaking is headquartered in NYC.


Clients are typically successful professionals in their 20s to 70s. She provides active searches for both men and women.


A 1-year matchmaking package starts at $15,000.

What To Expect

A boutique matchmaker, Ronis and her staff work with up to 100 active clients at any given time. After an initial interview, she'll find compatible matches from the Lisa Ronis Matchmaking database. You'll then meet with her to review them and decide which matches you'd like to meet.

When it comes to arranging the date, Ronis admits she's old-fashioned in that she expects the man to set it up. This is the case even when the woman is the paying client; she'll have the man make the phone call.

Ronis provides feedback after each first date, and also offers image consulting and dating coaching if needed. To learn more about her NYC matchmaking service, check out these Lisa Ronis Reviews.

Sameera Sullivan Matchmakers

Sameera Sullivan Matchmakers NYC website

Sameera Sullivan's matchmaking service was initially called Lasting Connections back when it was founded in 2012. She has since rebranded as Sameera Sullivan Matchmakers.


Sullivan specializes in matchmaking for “high net worth individuals.” A boutique-style matchmaker, she only personally works with 10 clients per year. Members of her matchmaking team each work with 8 to 10 clients at a time. The majority of clients are successful men, typically in their 40s or 50s.


$25,000 - $250,000+ for a 1-year commitment

Women can include their profile in Sullivan's database free of charge, or join her "priority paid membership registry" for $500. As a free member, you may never actually meet a paying client, as it all depends on whether or not you happen to meet someone else’s search criteria.

As a priority member there is still no guarantee of meeting anyone, but you'll have a higher chance as priority members are considered first when matching clients. Priority membership includes a 1-hour interview and a background check.

The cost of matchmaking packages for paying clients varies, as factors like dating locally versus in multiple cities and the selectivity of your search criteria factor into the cost. Memberships include an additional 6 months of "hold" time if needed.

What To Expect

Your matches will be pulled from her database of New York singles depending on which area you reside in. If you’re willing to travel, she has singles in a national database as well, so you can potentially meet people in any city you’re willing to visit.

Sullivan’s scouts also recruit women at charity galas, sporting events, coffee shops, and via their friends network. You can approve each match based on photos and detailed information. Confidentiality is of utmost importance, so information is only shared with your match after this approval. No blind dates here!

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Instead of working with a single matchmaker using a small rolodex of potential partners, VIDA Select’s matchmaking team taps into the world’s largest database of available singles. We’ll quickly identify the matches who check all of your boxes so you can finally experience true chemistry. Are you ready to become our next success story? Schedule your complimentary consultation now by clicking the button below!

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