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How To Hire A Personal Dating Assistant In 3 Steps
You’re thinking about hiring a personal dating assistant, so you’ve likely realized that meeting attractive singles on dating apps takes a lot of time, effort and skill.
After all, you need more than just a great dating profile and strong photos to catch the attention of quality matches.
You also need top-notch messaging skills to keep them engaged while you build up the trust and attraction required to say “yes” to a date or share a phone number.
With such a specialized skill set required, why wouldn’t you bring in an expert to get the results you want when what you’re doing now isn’t working?
The trick, of course, is choosing the right pro dating assistant.
Outsourcing your online dating has become a lot more commonplace these days, and there are some shady services out there.
It’s a highly unregulated industry, and some operators will waste both your time and your money, leaving you no better off in the romance department than you are right now.
But don’t worry - these 3 tips will help ensure you’re hiring the best personal dating assistant for you!
#1: Do Some Comparison Shopping
When you’re researching your options, there are two main factors to consider: what they do, and what makes them qualified to do it.
Some will only give your profile a makeover, rewriting your bio and prompt answers and critiquing your photo lineup. You’ll receive a refreshed profile along with a list of the type of photos you should include and remove.
Other personal dating assistants are full service, handling everything from overhauling your profile to swiping for you and sending messages on your behalf and arranging your dates.
Figuring out what services a company offers is relatively easy, often just a matter of looking them up online and checking out their website. Gauging a personal dating assistant’s level of expertise is a little trickier.
Ideally, you want to outsource your online dating to a service that has a proven track record and employs data-backed strategies. Far too many so-called experts out there just peddle whatever approach worked for them personally, and it might not work for you.
Do some due diligence. Read the reviews, check out their websites, and give them a call. Be prepared for them to unload a double barreled sales pitch, but remember: during this initial phone call, you’re interviewing them.
Which brings us to the second tip…
#2. Ask The Right Questions
You’re about to invest some time, money, and trust, so this step is crucial. Before you spend a dime on an online dating consultant or virtual dating assistant, ask these 3 questions:
What exactly am I paying for?
A lot of personal dating concierge companies will tell you how much different packages or hours of service cost. But they won’t elaborate on what each of those dollars is buying you.
Make sure to ask any online dating assistant you're considering hiring where exactly your money is going. A reputable company will be able to tell you exactly how the time you pay for is being spent.
Ask if your virtual dating assistant can provide a time log showing where the hours you are paying for are going. If they are unable or unwilling to provide you with a record of precisely where the time was spent in any given month, you may want to reconsider. A company not willing to be transparent usually has something to hide.
Do you offer a guarantee, and what exactly does it mean?
Often, personal dating assistants try to attract clients by dangling a juicy guarantee that you’ll get a certain number of dates or “date opportunities” per month. We understand the appeal—if you’re spending money to outsource your online dating, you want to feel certain you’re at least going to get a date out of it.
But before you jump on board, ask yourself… what are they really guaranteeing?
For instance, a “date opportunity” could just mean getting a phone number. And if one of those less than trustworthy personal dating assistants is scrambling to find you a match to fulfill the guarantee, you might find yourself calling a scammer, a “pro”, or someone you’d never even look twice at on the street, much less be interested in dating.
At the end of the day, sure - they satisfied the guarantee. But there’s little to no value in it for you.
Reputable dating assistants will make sure you have the opportunity to pre-screen all your potential matches and act as the gatekeeper, deciding for yourself who you meet.
What’s a guarantee really worth to you if you can’t have any say over who you take out on a date?
How do you feel about copy and paste messages?
A few of the pro dating assistant companies have mixed feelings about copy and paste messages, preferring to spend hours of your paid time crafting customized messages for each woman.
But when it comes to scaling, experts have proven that sending copy and paste messages is a better approach. The secret to success is making those messages still seem tailored to the recipient.
You want to give the impression that you’ve crafted a thoughtful message when, in reality, it didn’t take you long at all.
Here at VIDA Select, we know that data-driven decisions are the most effective. Our copy and paste messages work like crazy, and we’ve got extensive data that proves it.
So why would we spend a client’s time painstakingly crafting messages for one or two women, when we can send one proven-to-work message to 20 women in the same amount of time?
If your potential pro dating assistant is anti-copy and paste messages, ask them why. Do they have data that proves their time-devouring, customized message approach is more successful on dating apps and sites? And don’t just settle for a “yes” - ask them to share it with you.
#3. Make An Informed Decision
When you’re armed with the right questions to ask, you’ll get a good sense of whether or not a particular company is worth trusting with your love life, not to mention your time and money.
Every company will have a different approach, but what matters most is that you end up with a personal dating assistant who:
- Is open about where exactly your hours are being spent.
- Will get you dates with high-quality singles you are actually interested in.
- Understands the data behind what works and doesn’t work in modern dating.
VIDA Select has been managing dating apps and sites on behalf of the clients we represent since 2009. We’ve helped thousands and thousands of singles get the results they want, whether it’s a long-term relationship, marriage, or something more casual.
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