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POF vs. OkCupid vs. Tinder - Which Is Better For You?

You want to meet attractive women fast, so starting with the most popular sites and apps makes sense. POF, OkCupid, and Tinder are all free, and all part of the Match Group portfolio - so you know they're backed by quality. But creating profiles on all 3 just seems like too much hassle.

You're wondering where is the best place to focus your efforts. Check out our side-by-side comparison to determine which is better for you:

POF okcupid tinder
Casual (1) to Serious (10) Rating 3 5 1
Types of Women You would be hard pressed to find more variety on a dating site. Women range from coyote ugly to aspiring Instagram models. Especially popular with younger women (early 20s to mid 30s). You’ll find everything from “edgy” hipsters to commute-in-a-suit types.   The majority of users are under 34 and living in an urban area.  
Cost Free, with option to upgrade to a premium membership. Free, with option to upgrade to A-List. Free, with option to upgrade to Tinder Plus or Tinder Gold.
Biggest Plus One of the most popular free dating sites, so it has a huge user pool. Robust search features make screening matches easy. The most popular dating app in the US, so if she’s young & single, she’s probably on it.
Biggest Minus Since it’s free, you’ll find a higher percentage of fake profiles. As with any free site, you’ll run into women who aren’t serious about meeting you in person. Men outnumber women 3:1.

Give POF A Shot If You’re…

In your 30s+. The sheer number of users on Plenty Of Fish makes it a great place to start, so if you’re debating OkCupid vs POF vs Tinder and you’re in this age bracket, start with POF. 

By far one of the most popular free online dating sites around, you’ll find tons of women looking for everything from a no-strings-attached Friday night to casual dating to a potential husband.

You can access POF’s advanced search filters without having to upgrade, which is great if you’re looking for a long-term relationship. This allows you to filter your matches based on important criteria (i.e. smoking habits, children, religion, etc.).

When you can know more about your matches and screen them based on what’s most important to you in a relationship, each date you go on will have a higher probability of leading to a second date.

POF offers a paid membership, which includes these features:

POF upgrade features

A subscription costs as little as $6.78/month when you commit to a year, but when you can access all the features you really need for free, upgrading on this site isn’t really worth it.

The attractive women on POF get a ton of messages. Getting her attention is no easy feat, and it’s why guys like you have to send out a whopping 114 messages just to be guaranteed of getting 1 response. That’s a pretty dismal stat to be sure, and it’s a one of the reasons online dating can be absolutely exhausting.

For 5 examples of POF openers that work, click here.

Give OkCupid A Shot If You’re…

In your 20s to 30s and looking for a casual to longer term relationship. While there’s plenty of one night stand opportunities to be found, OkCupid is the most “relationship-minded” of the three options.

If it’s in your budget, OkCupid’s two levels of premium “A-List” features could be worth the investment if you live in a more populated city.

Here are the highlights:

A-List Basic

OkCupid A-List cost

  • Advanced search options like attractiveness level and body type
  • See who likes you
  • Message filters and read receipts
  • No ads

A-List Premium

OkCupid A-List Premium cost

  • All “A-List Basic” features
  • Automatic daily boost, which promotes your profile during peak hours
  • See and be seen by more attractive users
  • See how other users answered their public questions (before you answer)
  • Your messages will always appear at the top of her inbox

Don’t bother upgrading if you live in a more rural area - you probably won’t need the premium features to find the best local women.

For plenty of tips and tricks for using all those premium features to your advantage, go here.

Give Tinder A Shot If You’re…

Looking for a casual relationship. While Tinder’s most popular with singles under the age of 35, it’s still the go-to dating app in the US. The vast majority of users live in larger cities, but it’s worth a shot even in more remote areas, especially if you’re looking for younger women.

If you’re in a population dense area, upgrading to Tinder Plus or Tinder Gold can give you an edge. Free users only get 100 swipes every 12 hours and for most guys, that’s not enough to keep your pipeline full of new matches.

Tinder Plus gives you unlimited right swipes, plus:


  • 5 Super Likes a day
  • One free Boost each month
  • Ability to rewind your last swipe
  • Change your location to anywhere in the world via Passport
  • Hide your age and distance
  • Ad-free swiping

Tinder Gold comes with all the Tinder Plus perks, plus a feature that allows you to see only people who have already swiped right on your profile.

Check out this article for examples of irresistible Tinder bios that attract women for you.

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