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2022's Top 9 San Francisco Matchmakers [Which One Is Best For You?]

With men outnumbering women 4 to 1 in Silicon Valley, dating in San Francisco can be a frustrating experience. Hiring one of the many San Francisco matchmakers could be the answer... but figuring out who is the best one can be a challenge.

Start here, with these top 9 Bay Area matchmaking services!

Leslie Wardman, Ambiance Matchmaking

Leslie Wardman Ambiance Matchmaking

This elite matchmaking service is headquartered in San Francisco, with locations across the US, Canada, Mexico, and the UK.


Ambiance Matchmaking only accepts a limited number of clients at any given time, generally successful professionals in their 30s to 60s who are seeking a serious relationship.


Matchmaking packages start at $19,500, with the cost depending on whether you want a local, national, or international search.

What To Expect

Because Wardman works hand-in-hand with each client, she only takes on 20 new clients at one time. Potential clients are screened, with only 4.07% of those who applied accepted in 2020.

Wardman and her team identify compatible matches from the Ambiance database of over 10,000 eligible singles. Potential matches are further screened and interviewed to ensure they’re a good fit for what both people are seeking. Once compatibility is determined, the first date is planned.

Matchmaking contracts are 12 months, with up to 12 months of “pause” time if needed. You can generally expect to meet 1 to 2 matches each month.

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Amy Andersen, Linx Dating

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Often called the “Silicon Valley Cupid,” this boutique matchmaker helps men and women in the tech industry find love.


Tech professionals and executives looking for “The One.”


$45,000 - $500,000, and men under age 31 can become “referral clients” and placed in the database of eligible singles for free, but are not guaranteed to be matched with paying clients.

What To Expect

Potential clients apply via the website, and if you look like a good fit for Linx, you’ll be contacted for a 90-minute consultation at the cost of several hundred dollars. There are a variety of membership options to choose from, all of which include a 2-year contract and 4 months of “hold” time.

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Further Reading

Linx Dating reviews

Greta Tufvesson & Nikki Lewis, The Bevy

The Bevy San Francisco matchmakers

This bi-coastal dating service has offices in LA and NY, and now operates in San Francisco as well.


“Discerning” men and women between 23 and 60 years old seeking long-term relationships.


Prices for men generally start around $25,000. Women may join for free, provided they pass the screening process.

What To Expect

Most of The Bevy’s clients come via referral, but you can also fill out the contact form on the website. You’ll have several consultations with your matchmaker to go over details like your background, relationship history, life goals, perfect match criteria, etc.

You’ll be matched with singles in The Bevy’s database, but you won’t get to see what they look like prior to the date. You can also attend members-only events where you can mingle with other members.

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Further Reading

The Bevy reviews

Talia Goldstein, Three Day Rule

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This national matchmaking service calls LA home, but Three Day Rule has professional matchmakers based in Silicon Valley too.


Both men and women, ranging from their 20s to 60s.


To meet at least 3 matches over the course of 3 months, it’s $5,900. Meeting at least 6 matches over 6 months is $9,500. 6 months of "VIP" matchmaking services starts around $18,500. The longer memberships also include a pro photo session.

There’s no fee to have your profile included as an eligible Silicon Valley single, but you may not ever get matched with anyone.

What To Expect

Paying clients are matched with other paying clients, or “free” members from within the database. Three Day Rule also has a partnership with online dating sites OkCupid,, ChristianMingle, and JDate, so you’ll likely find some of your matches were recruited from there as well.

You’ll be shown a profile, pics included, of each match. If it’s someone you’d like to meet, you’ll be given their contact info so you can call to arrange a first date.

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Further Reading

Three Day Rule reviews

Jill Kelleher & Amber Kelleher-Andrews, Kelleher International

Jill and Amber Kelleher

This mom/daughter matchmaking team calls San Francisco home, although they work with a network of matchmakers across the country and internationally.


Men and women who are ready for marriage.


If you only want to search in SF, matchmaking services start at $30,000. If you want your search to extend nationally, that starts at $45,000 - and an international search costs $150,000 to over $300,000.

What To Expect

No matter the scope of your search, membership contracts last 1 to 3 years and include up to a year’s worth of “hold” time. Your matchmaker will match you with people from their 50,000+ strong database.

Both you and your potential match will be given a description of each other, and if there’s interest on both sides phone numbers are exchanged.

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Shannon Lundgren, Shannon’s Circle Matchmaking

Shannon Lundgren, San Francisco matchmaker

A boutique San Francisco matchmaker, Shannon Lundgren specializes in helping Ivy League singles find love. She’s an Ivy Leaguer herself, with an MBA from Harvard Business School.

She started Shannon's Circle in 2012 while working as an executive at Wells Fargo, and has been matchmaking full time since 2021.


Highly educated, professional singles. Lundgren works with both men and women as paying clients.


Shannon’s Circle pricing isn’t disclosed on her website. However she does let say matchmaking packages start “in the 5 figures,” so you can expect to spend at least $10,000.

Contracts are customized to each client’s circumstances, and run for 6 or 12 months.

What To Expect

Prospective clients start with a consultation. If you decide to move forward with Lundgren’s services, you’ll meet compatible singles from her internal database. 

She also sources potential dates via her matchmaking and personal networks, and also does “targeted outreach” depending on your package level. 

Shannon’s Circle also offers dating coaching and other concierge services.

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Janis & Carly Spindel, Serious Matchmaking

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Even though this mother and daughter team is based out of NYC, they work with clients in the US and around the globe, and also have a presence in San Francisco.


Marriage-minded men.


Women can pay between $250-$1,250 for the chance to pass the screening required to join the database of eligible singles, and potentially be matched with paying clients.

Membership prices for men start at $25,000 and top out at $1,000,000, depending on the scope of the matchmaking service you want.

Contracts also include an up-front signing fee that varies by client, but starts at $65,000. Should you get into a relationship with a match, you'll also be on the hook for a finder's fee of the same amount. A relationship equates to dating for 12 months, becoming engaged, or moving in together.

What To Expect

Contracts span a 12-month time period and typically include at least one match per month. The first step is meeting with Janis or Carly, typically over a meal, so they can get to know both you and your dating preferences. You’ll be matched with women in the Serious Matchmaking database.

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Further Reading

Serious Matchmaking reviews

April Davis, LUMA Luxury Matchmaking

april davis LUMA matchmaking

This millionaire matchmaker is based in Minneapolis but runs 16 different locations around the country - including one in San Francisco.


Both men and women, typically professionals and executives, who are seeking a long-term relationship.


$5,000 to $10,000 for an "active" search or you can be listed in the LUMA database for free - but there’s no guarantee you’ll ever be matched with a paying client.

What To Expect

After a face-to-face interview, you’ll be paired with a matchmaker who will also be working with up to 19 other clients at the same time. She’ll search through the singles in the LUMA database and will arrange dates with the matches she feels are compatible. If the two of you hit it off, you can choose to exchange numbers during the date.

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Further Reading

LUMA Matchmaking reviews

Scott Valdez, VIDA Select

Scott Valdez, VIDA Select

Dating in the San Francisco Bay area can be frustrating, but with VIDA Select’s team of experienced matchmakers it can be a whole lot easier to meet elite singles - and more affordable!


Relationship-minded men and women from their mid-20s to their 60s.


VIDA Select offers 3 levels of matchmaking services, with the price of each monthly package highly reflective of the number of hours that should be used for finding highly compatible, incredible matches.

Your matchmaker will take into account factors like the complexity of your 'ideal partner' criteria, the number of areas you'd like to match in, etc. when recommending the best package for you.

Basic matchmaking packages start with a monthly investment of just $995. Premium packages start at $1595 per month, and Elite options begin at just $2395 per month. On average, a client meets someone special in just 3 months!

What To Expect

Unlike the other matchmakers on this list, VIDA doesn’t require a signed contract. VIDA is unique in that it delivers executive matchmaking services but lets you pay month-by-month - that means you only pay for the time you actually need.

And since VIDA utilizes the largest database of eligible San Francisco singles, you could be just a month or two away from meeting your perfect partner!

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