Have you started thinking that the more attractive a woman is on Tinder, the less likely she is to respond to your messages? It may seem like no matter how many pickup lines you try out on your matches, it’s all crickets and tumbleweeds.
Talk about frustrating. She swiped right, and you’ve got some pretty decent material. They may not be the best Tinder lines she’s ever seen, but you’re not one of those guys who falls back on “Hey!”
So what’s with the radio silence?
Here’s your problem – why would she respond to your “pretty good” message, when she’s got dozens of other men with better material like this clamoring for her attention?:
Attractive women can afford to be picky – they’re weeding through hundreds of messages from guys just like you. So if you don’t create something like this that immediately snags her attention and compels her to respond, she won’t:
Even if she does reply to your “eh” message at first, she’s likely to stop responding before you get her number. Thanks to your boring conversation starter, taking things off the app is an uphill battle.
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It’s always tough to know what to say to a beautiful woman. And on Tinder, you’re expected to write her a clever message that makes you stand out from all the other guys and their pickup lines.
Meanwhile, she probably hasn’t written a single interesting thing in her bio that you can use to break the ice!
It’s not your fault that you weren’t born with the magical lines like this that get women ravenously responding to your Tinder messages:
Since I started VIDA in 2009, my team and I have helped thousands of men like you take their approach from “pretty good” to “great” overnight. Getting more quality dates with the women you want to meet comes down to optimizing your profile and messages to the largest degree possible. That’s what we do.
And now, I’ve got the best 16 Tinder lines for you right here – ready to copy, paste and send to just about any woman. Plus, I’ll let you in on the secrets behind why they work, so you can come up with some Grade A pick up lines on your own. Class is in session!
The Best Tinder Pick Up Lines Follow This Golden Rule
Make her feel something.
If your ice-breaker fails to trigger some kind of pleasurable emotion, your response rate will plummet.
This is why opening lines like “Hey, what’s up?” or “How was your weekend?” rarely compel attractive women to write you back. The only thing you’ve made her feel is bored.
Instead, your message should ask a question that entices her, excites her, or gets her imagination flowing. If it’s fun for her to think about and answer, her mind has already associated you with positive feelings – and that kind of emotional connection is essential if she’s going to say “yes” to a date.
Put A Smile On Her Face
Making her laugh is one of the best ways to spark an instant connection. In fact, research shows women are hardwired to find funny men irresistible. But keep in mind, you have to actually be funny.
Not every guy can pull off humorous writing, so animated GIFs like the examples above are a great way to make her chuckle.
In fact, Tinder’s in-house data revealed that messages containing GIFs are 30% more likely to get a response, and the conversations last 2x longer. Don’t just send a random image, though. Pair a funny GIF with a message that ends with a question that makes it easy for her to respond.
You don’t have to rely solely on GIFs to bring the funny. These examples will get you thinking in the right direction:
To see more examples of funny Tinder pick up lines, check out this article. But if funny isn’t your thing, don’t worry. Humor isn’t the only way to win her heart.
Get Her Craving More
Hinge conducted an experiment and found women were 40% more likely to respond to messages about food:
Many of the best Tinder lines use delicious, mouth-watering words. Think along the lines of chocolate, wine, cheesecake… things that women often crave:
Tantalize Her Imagination
The best Tinder conversation starters spark a pleasurable daydream. Travel is one topic women love to think about:
Get Her Talking About Herself
Research shows that talking about yourself is inherently pleasurable. Self-disclosure stimulates the same areas of the brain that are associated with motivation and reward.
Why not ask her a personality-based question that lets her think and talk about her #1 favorite topic?
Answering it will make her feel good, which is a point in your favor.
Make It Seem Tailored Just For Her
Women, especially the attractive ones, get bombarded with messages. She’ll think it’s a refreshing change to get one that seems written just for her. Of course, she doesn’t have to know that you send this same message to all the women who mention sports in their bios:
Having something in common increases attraction, since people tend to be more comfortable with other people who remind them of themselves. So if you share an interest that she’s displayed in her profile text or one of her photos, take advantage of it by using it as your opener.
Hobbies and interests aren’t the only subjects you can target to make you messages seem tailored specifically to her. For instance, you could send this “personalized” message to any woman with an unusual name:
Make Your Messages Age Appropriate
Before you go nuts sending all these opening lines to everyone you’ve matched with, it’s worth mentioning that different messages play better with different age groups.
Some messages work best for women in their lower 20s, while others work for women in their upper 20s. What works for a cute 23 year old might cause a more grounded 29 year old who’s looking for The One to roll her eyes and move on.
In fact, Hinge’s research confirmed what our number crunchers here at VIDA already knew – taking her age into consideration when choosing what type of message to send pays off with higher response rates.
Hinge found that these opening lines worked very well for the specific age ranges they’re listed under, but didn’t always perform so well outside of those ranges:
The effectiveness of any given message you could sent depends not only on the women who are receiving it, but also on how you’re perceived by those women online when they look at your photos and bio. Attraction is a complex formula, and that’s why there are no Tinder pickup lines that work great for every guy on every women.
If you want to maximize your results, you have to keep track of which lines work for you, and which don’t. A simple calculation will make the winners and losers stand out so you can continually optimize your message strategy.
All you have to do is note how many times you send each message, and how many times it gets a response. (It takes a bit of dedication to keep track of each and every time, but the data is worth it, I promise).
Figuring out the response rate is super easy: it’s just the number of replies divided by the number of times sent. Use this response rate calculator, or keep track of it yourself in a simple spreadsheet.
So if these were your icebreakers in the image to the left, you could see that 2, 3, 4, and 7 are keepers. And just as important, you’d know which low performers to scrap, like 1 and 11.
Channeling your inner statistician is the only way to figure out which lines are the best Tinder icebreakers for you, so go ahead and get your geek on.
The results may surprise you. When I first started testing out Tinder pickup lines, I thought “So tell me… is Jesus the only man in your life right now?” was golden. After all, it made my buddies chuckle.
However, only 14 percent of women responded. Meanwhile, the Jameson/beautiful bastard child example from above clocked in with a 76% response rate. That was surprising.
The morale of this story? Data-driven decisions are the best ones. Without testing, you’ll never truly figure out which Tinder pick up lines work the best for you and the women you want to meet.
If At First You Don’t Succeed…
Try again. Even the best Tinder icebreakers might not get a response every time, and the reason might have nothing to do with you. Maybe her meeting started back up, or she got sucked into a Game of Thrones episode. She’s got a lot of other things competing for her attention, so even dynamite opening lines can get lost in the shuffle.
So if you don’t get a response to your opener, send her a second message. A light-hearted line that relates back to the first message lets her know you’re still interested, without seeming desperate.
Something like this should work well:
Or a stock line like this “cape and tights” one works great for just about any occasion:
It only takes a second to copy and paste a second message. Reigniting a conversation is easy when you have a stockpile of your best Tinder one liners.
But here’s the catch – while most women appreciate persistence, only send one (or max two). If she doesn’t take the bait, move on – no woman wants a Stage Five Clinger. Besides, there are plenty of other attractive women on Tinder!
If you’re sending literary gold and still getting a poor response rate, chances are your messages aren’t the problem. It’s you. Or more specifically, your photos. The best Tinder pick up lines in the world can’t combat terrible photos.
When she’s scrolling through your Tinder photos, she’s making snap judgments based on what she sees. And we’re talking everything she sees, not just the obvious stuff like your face and body. Your expression, your posture, your choice in clothes – she’s subconsciously soaking it all in, and judging you on it. This process – also called “thin slicing” – is how first impressions are formed.
Everyone does it – it’s basic human nature. You did it the last time you killed a few minutes swiping right and left. The good news is you can use this to your advantage by making sure your photos are attractive on all levels. (Further reading: Simple ways to improve your Tinder photos.)
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