Frequently Asked Questions


Why hire a dating assistant?
Let's face it. Dating can be difficult and stressful. Not only does it eat away at your time, but the competition is fierce. The right dating assistant, knows how to make you stand out in the eyes of your ideal woman, get her viewing you in the proper light and send you on a date with her, ALL with no effort on your part. Just sit back, relax, and let us fill your calendar with as many dates as you'd like.

I'm a woman. Is this service available for me too?

Yes. We also offer full service packages to female clients. To see how we can help you find your ideal man, please check out our women's site here.

Can't I do all of this myself?

Yes, you certainly CAN do all of this yourself…if you're willing to go through ALL the trial and error of trying to figure out what actually works. You can take this on yourself, if you have the tenacity to deal with all of the frustration and lost time that you'll never get back…AND if you're okay experiencing a lot of failure as you navigate the learning curve, all the while knowing that your results could be a lot better if only you were already at an expert level right now.

It's likely you'll find that doing online dating for yourself starts to feel like another part time job.You may get frustrated and give up when you don't get the kind of response rate you'd like or don't get any responses at all, and you may lack the proper “outsider perspective” to be able to present yourself in the most intriguing way to women.

Further, you may just discover how fiercely competitive the arena of online dating can be and how the messages that worked for you a month ago are suddenly played out and no longer effective.

At VIDA, you can always be assured that we're on the cutting-edge of online dating. We can and will deliver maximum results from all our data and resources, to get you on as many dates as possible with no effort on your part.


How many dates can I expect to go on per month?
Although this varies from client to client depending on their preferences, most men will be set up with 4 or more dates per month with women they want to meet.

How much does it cost?

After working with more than 1,000 clients since 2009, we've realized that men who want to go on great dates and, ultimately, meet the woman of their dreams cannot be boxed up into 2-3 predetermined packages.

During our complimentary consultation session, we get to know you and what you're looking for before presenting the exact solution that we're confident is the best fit for your needs. Click here to sign up for your 20-minute consultation now.


I don't live in North America. Do you take on clients outside of the US and Canada?

We certainly do. We get a ton of clients in London and Sydney, and we can help you anywhere in the world as long as it makes sense for us to write for you in English. We've also helped expats living in a number of cities like Tokyo, Shanghai, Beijing, Singapore, Moscow and Manila.

How do you represent me accurately?

Getting massive response from women starts with nailing your profile. It's the foundation of who you are online, and it has to be done right the first time so it will reap rewards for weeks and months to come.

Because we'd never want to misrepresent you in any way, here at VIDA, we work hard to ensure your profile is completely accurate, but also alluring to your ideal type of woman.

It starts with a 60-90 minute interview where we get to know as much information as possible about you and your personality. This allows us to paint a very attractive yet authentic picture of who you are in your profile text.

If you don't feel like we hit the nail on the head the first time with your profile, we work together with you until it describes you in just the right way.

Our commitment to accurate representation shows up in our customer satisfaction surveys, where clients consistently give us the highest marks in this area.


Are you sure women won't realize something's not quite right when we meet?

Assuming you don't tell them, they will never have a clue.

In the answer to the previous question, we explained that we always represent you with total accuracy.

Further, if you've been on a lot of online dates before, you'll also know there's already a really large discrepancy between what you see online and what you get in person. That's simply the nature of online dating, and there's extensive academic research out there that supports this.

For this reason, even if we don't represent you with 100% accuracy online, as we always strive to do, it will seem completely normal. No woman will ever think it must have been someone else sending the emails.


Am I able to access my dating accounts and see the messages you're sending?

Yes, you have full access to your online dating accounts and can see every single message we ever send on your behalf.

Think of it like this: These are your dating accounts and you're simply allowing us to access them. If you decide to stop the service, you will retain the accounts and can even put our proven material into play on your own. We obviously don't want this to happen, but there will be nothing stopping you.

With VIDA, you'll have front-row tickets to the show. You'll see the very “best practices” put into play by a team of experts with more experience and scientifically-tested strategies than anyone else in the world.


How are the women selected and what if I don't like them?

You will like them because you are the one who ultimately decides who you want to meet and who you don't.

Of course we narrow the enormous pool of profiles down to only the most attractive and interesting women for you. Once we've done all of this tedious sifting work, you simply give us a thumbs up or down on each of our selections.

This approval step can be completed either before we send them an email or after they respond. That's up to you.


Can I pick the women myself?

Yes, of course. If you want to do some or all of the searching on your own, you are welcome to send us lists of women that you like and we'll reach out to them.

How long does it take to get everything set up and going?

Generally, we'll have you all set up on 3+ dating sites within about a week. However, there are a few approval steps that require your input, and if there are delays on your end, it can take a bit longer. It's rare, though, that we aren't messaging women within two weeks of your signup date.

How long does it take to meet someone special?

We've found it just takes an average of 12 first dates before our clients meet someone special. This generally happens within 3.5 months, but it can happen much faster. In fact, it's not uncommon for our clients to ask us to take down their dating profiles just hours after the very first date we set up for them in their first month of service.

What is your success rate?

Currently, 63% of our clients put the service on hold because they meet someone with whom they wish to pursue a serious relationship. Most of them never come back. They're much more likely to send friends our way or let us know about their engagement or marriage to the woman we brought into their life.

Will it be a male or female doing this for me?

Generally speaking, your matchmaker will be a female and your writer will be a male. We've found this to be the optimal way to ensure that we get both a male and a female perspective on everything we do for you.

Do I have a single point of contact or multiple ones?

You have one single point of contact and that is your personal, dedicated wingwoman. She really gets to know you and you communicate with her and her only via email, SMS, and over the phone. She works together with your expert dating writer to ensure you're thrilled with the results.

Can this work in multiple cities while I'm traveling for work or pleasure?

Yes, we can set you up with dates in any decent-sized city in the world. All you need to do is give us a week's notice about your trip and we can have women waiting for you when you get off the plane.

Can you assist with Russian, Ukrainian and other international dating searches?

Yes. The owner of VIDA, Scott Valdez, personally spent over a year living in Ukraine, and we've sent 29+ clients to meet women in Eastern European cities like Kiev, Moscow, and St. Petersburg. As long as we can write the women in English, we can deliver you solid results.

Can you just send the icebreaker email and I'll do the back and forth emails myself?

Yes. Around 1 out of 10 of our clients prefer to handle the back and forth emails themselves. We simply fill their inboxes with women that interest them and they do the rest. If that's something you're interested in, we can certainly accommodate you.

Is there a risk of a woman receiving the exact same message or a strikingly similar one from both me and another client?

It's highly unlikely. Our assistants search each username in our database prior to emailing her in order to prevent this from happening. Because of this, the only way this can happen is if she changes her username or has different usernames on two different sites and we email her on both of them.

Do the women know I am using your service?

No, and they will never know unless you tell them.

Further, we don't recommend that you tell a woman that you used our service until you're sure that she's very much into you.

It's highly unlikely that a girl who is in love with you would leave you just because the first few messages she received before you'd even met in person weren't sent by you. However, a woman who just met you for the first time and is still forming an early impression of you is likely to be turned off by it.


How do you ensure confidentiality?

Our entire team is bound by Non-Disclosure Agreements and understands the importance of strict confidentiality. We never disclose your last name, phone number or any other personal information on dating sites without your explicit permission.

Further, the transaction on your credit card will appear as “Vida,” which is extremely difficult for anyone (i.e. your bookkeeper) to trace back to our company.

Rest assured that no one will ever discover that you used this service unless you decide to tell them yourself.


Are there any cancellation fees and am I locked into any sort of contract?

No, there are no cancellation fees or long-term contracts. You can cancel at any time and you won't be billed again.

Simply give us one month to prove to you that our skills and expertise are worth every last penny. If we don't meet your expectations, you don't need to continue.

However, the way we thrive is by keeping you on board until you meet someone and refer friends by telling them about your success story. We'll do our very best to make sure that happens.


Frequently Asked Questions

Why hire a dating assistant?

Let's face it. Dating can be difficult and stressful. Not only does it eat away at your time, but the competition is fierce. The right dating assistant, knows how to make you stand out in the eyes of your ideal woman, get her viewing you in the proper light and send you on a date with her, ALL with no effort on your part. Just sit back, relax, and let us fill your calendar with as many dates as you'd like.

I'm a woman. Is this service available for me too?

Yes. We also offer full service packages to female clients. To see how we can help you find your ideal man, please check out our women's site here.

Can't I do all of this myself?

Yes, you certainly CAN do all of this yourself...if you're willing to go through ALL the trial and error of trying to figure out what actually works. You can take this on yourself, if you have the tenacity to deal with all of the frustration and lost time that you'll never get back...AND if you're okay experiencing a lot of failure as you navigate the learning curve, all the while knowing that your results could be a lot better if only you were already at an expert level right now.

It's likely you'll find that doing online dating for yourself starts to feel like another part time job.You may get frustrated and give up when you don't get the kind of response rate you'd like or don't get any responses at all, and you may lack the proper “outsider perspective” to be able to present yourself in the most intriguing way to women.

Further, you may just discover how fiercely competitive the arena of online dating can be and how the messages that worked for you a month ago are suddenly played out and no longer effective.

At VIDA, you can always be assured that we're on the cutting-edge of online dating. We can and will deliver maximum results from all our data and resources, to get you on as many dates as possible with no effort on your part.

How many dates can I expect to go on per month?

Although this varies from client to client depending on their preferences, most men will be set up with 4 or more dates per month with women they want to meet.

How much does it cost?

After working with more than 1,000 clients since 2009, we've realized that men who want to go on great dates and, ultimately, meet the woman of their dreams cannot be boxed up into 2-3 predetermined packages.

During our complimentary consultation session, we get to know you and what you're looking for before presenting the exact solution that we're confident is the best fit for your needs. Click here to sign up for your 20-minute consultation now.

I don't live in North America. Do you take on clients outside of the US and Canada?

We certainly do. We get a ton of clients in London and Sydney, and we can help you anywhere in the world as long as it makes sense for us to write for you in English. We've also helped expats living in a number of cities like Tokyo, Shanghai, Beijing, Singapore, Moscow and Manila.

How do you represent me accurately?

Getting massive response from women starts with nailing your profile. It's the foundation of who you are online, and it has to be done right the first time so it will reap rewards for weeks and months to come.

Because we'd never want to misrepresent you in any way, here at VIDA, we work hard to ensure your profile is completely accurate, but also alluring to your ideal type of woman.

It starts with a 60-90 minute interview where we get to know as much information as possible about you and your personality. This allows us to paint a very attractive yet authentic picture of who you are in your profile text.

If you don't feel like we hit the nail on the head the first time with your profile, we work together with you until it describes you in just the right way.

Our commitment to accurate representation shows up in our customer satisfaction surveys, where clients consistently give us the highest marks in this area.

Are you sure women won't realize something's not quite right when we meet?

Assuming you don't tell them, they will never have a clue.

In the answer to the previous question, we explained that we always represent you with total accuracy.

Further, if you've been on a lot of online dates before, you'll also know there's already a really large discrepancy between what you see online and what you get in person. That's simply the nature of online dating, and there's extensive academic research out there that supports this.

For this reason, even if we don't represent you with 100% accuracy online, as we always strive to do, it will seem completely normal. No woman will ever think it must have been someone else sending the emails.

Am I able to access my dating accounts and see the messages you're sending?

Yes, you have full access to your online dating accounts and can see every single message we ever send on your behalf.

Think of it like this: These are your dating accounts and you're simply allowing us to access them. If you decide to stop the service, you will retain the accounts and can even put our proven material into play on your own. We obviously don't want this to happen, but there will be nothing stopping you.

With VIDA, you'll have front-row tickets to the show. You'll see the very “best practices” put into play by a team of experts with more experience and scientifically-tested strategies than anyone else in the world.

How are the women selected and what if I don't like them?

You will like them because you are the one who ultimately decides who you want to meet and who you don't.

Of course we narrow the enormous pool of profiles down to only the most attractive and interesting women for you. Once we've done all of this tedious sifting work, you simply give us a thumbs up or down on each of our selections.

This approval step can be completed either before we send them an email or after they respond. That's up to you.

Can I pick the women myself?

Yes, of course. If you want to do some or all of the searching on your own, you are welcome to send us lists of women that you like and we'll reach out to them.

How long does it take to get everything set up and going?

Generally, we'll have you all set up on 3+ dating sites within about a week. However, there are a few approval steps that require your input, and if there are delays on your end, it can take a bit longer. It's rare, though, that we aren't messaging women within two weeks of your signup date.

How long does it take to meet someone special?

We've found it just takes an average of 12 first dates before our clients meet someone special. This generally happens within 3.5 months, but it can happen much faster. In fact, it's not uncommon for our clients to ask us to take down their dating profiles just hours after the very first date we set up for them in their first month of service.

What is your success rate?

Currently, 63% of our clients put the service on hold because they meet someone with whom they wish to pursue a serious relationship. Most of them never come back. They're much more likely to send friends our way or let us know about their engagement or marriage to the woman we brought into their life.

Will it be a male or female doing this for me?

Generally speaking, your matchmaker will be a female and your writer will be a male. We've found this to be the optimal way to ensure that we get both a male and a female perspective on everything we do for you.

Do I have a single point of contact or multiple ones?

You have one single point of contact and that is your personal, dedicated wingwoman. She really gets to know you and you communicate with her and her only via email, SMS, and over the phone. She works together with your expert dating writer to ensure you're thrilled with the results.

Can this work in multiple cities while I'm traveling for work or pleasure?

Yes, we can set you up with dates in any decent-sized city in the world. All you need to do is give us a week's notice about your trip and we can have women waiting for you when you get off the plane.

Can you assist with Russian, Ukrainian and other international dating searches?

Yes. The owner of VIDA, Scott Valdez, personally spent over a year living in Ukraine, and we've sent 29+ clients to meet women in Eastern European cities like Kiev, Moscow, and St. Petersburg. As long as we can write the women in English, we can deliver you solid results.

Can you just send the icebreaker email and I'll do the back and forth emails myself?

Yes. Around 1 out of 10 of our clients prefer to handle the back and forth emails themselves. We simply fill their inboxes with women that interest them and they do the rest. If that's something you're interested in, we can certainly accommodate you.

Is there a risk of a woman receiving the exact same message or a strikingly similar one from both me and another client?

It's highly unlikely. Our assistants search each username in our database prior to emailing her in order to prevent this from happening. Because of this, the only way this can happen is if she changes her username or has different usernames on two different sites and we email her on both of them.

Do the women know I am using your service?

No, and they will never know unless you tell them.

Further, we don't recommend that you tell a woman that you used our service until you're sure that she's very much into you.

It's highly unlikely that a girl who is in love with you would leave you just because the first few messages she received before you'd even met in person weren't sent by you. However, a woman who just met you for the first time and is still forming an early impression of you is likely to be turned off by it.

How do you ensure confidentiality?

Our entire team is bound by Non-Disclosure Agreements and understands the importance of strict confidentiality. We never disclose your last name, phone number or any other personal information on dating sites without your explicit permission.

Further, the transaction on your credit card will appear as “Vida,” which is extremely difficult for anyone (i.e. your bookkeeper) to trace back to our company.

Rest assured that no one will ever discover that you used this service unless you decide to tell them yourself.

Are there any cancellation fees and am I locked into any sort of contract?

No, there are no cancellation fees or long-term contracts. You can cancel at any time and you won't be billed again.

Simply give us one month to prove to you that our skills and expertise are worth every last penny. If we don't meet your expectations, you don't need to continue.

However, the way we thrive is by keeping you on board until you meet someone and refer friends by telling them about your success story. We'll do our very best to make sure that happens.

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