Best Matchmaking Services For New Hampshire Singles

The 6 best New Hampshire matchmakers range from $499/year (Cara Matchmaking) to $20,000+ (Enamour). VIDA Select leads with $1,595+/month packages and no long-term contracts, serving Portsmouth, Manchester, Nashua, Concord with 3-month average results. Options span budget-friendly to white-glove service.

Key Insights: What You Need to Know

• Budget option: Cara Matchmaking ($499/year, traditional approach with pink/blue files)
• Mid-range: LunchDates ($1,500-$3,000+), Matchmaker of Maine (several hundred to several thousand)
• Flexible monthly: VIDA Select ($1,595+/month, no long-term contract)
• Premium services: Enamour ($20,000+ for 6 months), Elegant Introductions (pricing disclosed during consultation)
• Service cities: Portsmouth, Nashua, Manchester, Concord, Hanover, and statewide coverage
• Average results: VIDA clients meet someone special in 3 months typically
• Age focus: Most services target 40+ singles, though VIDA and some others serve 20s-60s+
• Match sourcing: Varies from database-only (Cara, Matchmaker of Maine base) to active recruitment (Enamour, VIDA, Elegant)
• Founded range: Matchmaker of Maine (1997), Cara (2013), LunchDates (40+ years), VIDA/Enamour (2009)

Our matchmaking experts created this guide to help singles in Portsmouth, Hanover, and across New Hampshire find the best matchmaker. With our experience in the industry dating back to 2009, we're well acquainted with all the major players.

Enamour - White Glove Matchmaking

The Enamour team has been helping accomplished and selective singles meet incredible matches since 2009. Enamour is known for its tailored approach to finding your ideal partner, using a blend of relationship psychology, intuition, and personality profiling to identify highly compatible candidates.

Clientele

Enamour is perfect for those seeking a white glove experience.

Cost & Contracts

Enamour offers a selection of matchmaking packages, with contracts starting at 6 months. The cost of service begins around $20,000.

What To Expect

The process begins when you're paired with your personal matchmaker. She'll get to know all about you and your lifestyle, and what you're seeking in an ideal partner.

The search begins with Enamour's highly curated, invitation-only database. The team also employs recruiting technology as well as an extensive network of scouts to identify potential candidates.

All matches are thoroughly vetted, with the screening done via video or in person. Your matchmaker gets to the heart of compatibility, asking all those delicate questions usually reserved for the 3rd or 4th date.

Matches who pass the screening are presented to you for approval. After each date, your matchmaker will follow up with both you and your match, passing along insightful feedback and fine-tuning the search process as needed.

Enamour also offers a range of additional services, including personal styling, professional photography, and dating/relationship coaching.

VIDA Select - Founded by Scott Valdez

Also a veteran matchmaker, Scott Valdez founded VIDA Select in 2009. He helps singles in Portsmouth, Manchester, Concord, Nashua and across the state find their ideal partners.

His matchmaking team uses a blend of proprietary tech and old school intuition to hand-select highly compatible matches from New Hampshire’s largest pool of singles.

Clientele 

VIDA Select works with single professionals of all ages, from their 20s to 60s+.

Cost & Contract

Monthly matchmaking packages start at $1,595, with no long-term contract required. There is also a 90-day "Match Guarantee" package that delivers a minimum of 5 highly curated matches you personally approve. Guaranteed results, or your search continues at no additional cost.

With an 82% success rate, clients typically meet someone within three months of beginning service.

What To Expect 

VIDA Select doesn’t extend service to everyone who applies. There is a quick screening process first, then an initial consultation to ensure you’re a good fit (and vice versa!)

During the call, you’ll share some basic details about yourself and your matching criteria, and learn about how the service works. 

Once you’ve chosen which monthly package fits your requirements, you’ll set up an in-depth interview with your dedicated personal matchmaker.

During this 90-minute call, she’ll get to know your interests, hobbies, likes and dislikes, matching “must haves” - all the important details she needs to help the matchmaking team identify highly compatible people for you to meet.

You have the opportunity to review all your potential matches, based on a full profile and photos.

VIDA Select also offers services like personal styling and dating coaching, so you’ll have everything you need to turn an amazing first date into a second one.

 

Elegant Introductions (by Dr. Nancy Zimmer & Barbara Black Goldfarb)

Dr. Nancy Zimmer and Barbara Black Goldfarb are co-founders of Elegant Introductions and proud New England natives.

Having been born and raised there, they live by New England values: authenticity, loyalty, and sincerity. They say they understand New Hampshire’s independent spirit and how important meaningful, lasting relationships are to people who value quality over quantity.

Clientele

Elegant Introductions specializes in working with successful, discerning New Hampshire singles - entrepreneurs, executives, physicians, academics, and leaders from every field - who are ready for real, lasting relationships.

They work exclusively with individuals who are ready for a serious commitment, offering personalized care and attention to every client.

Cost & Contract

Every client’s journey is unique, and pricing is tailored based on the scope of your search, whether you're keeping things local in Portsmouth, exploring statewide matches, or looking across the region. During your initial consultation, the full process will be explained and pricing discussed.   

What To Expect

The journey begins with a private and confidential intake form. This gives the matchmaking team a clear sense of who you are, from your relationship history and personal values to what you're truly looking for in a partner.

Once your form has been reviewed, you’ll be invited to a discovery meeting - a low-pressure, one-on-one conversation where you'll get a sense of the team’s philosophy and approach to matchmaking.

If it feels like a good fit, you'll move on to a consultation with the founders. This in-depth session goes beyond the surface, diving into your emotional needs, deal-breakers, relationship goals, and the vision you have for your future.

And if everyone agrees to move forward, the team develops a matchmaking strategy designed around your ideal partner and lifestyle. 

Elegant Introductions also includes a full suite of services to help you show up as your best self. You’ll have access to relationship and dating coaching, professional photography, and styling services.  

Further Reading: Elegant Introductions Reviews  

 

LunchDates (by Jill Vandor)

Executive matchmaker Jill Vandor has been with LunchDates for over 10 years, although the company itself has been around for more than 3 decades. 

LunchDates is headquartered in Boston. But this matchmaking service helps singles in several East Coast states, including New Hampshire. The New Hampshire office is located in Nashua. 

Clientele

LunchDates caters primarily to busy professionals.   

Cost & Contracts

Potential clients choose either a 6 or 12-month contract. 

The membership packages vary in cost depending on factors like your match criteria, locations you’d like to include in your search, etc. 

Pricing generally starts around $1,500 to $3,000 for basic matchmaking services, and ranges higher for the “Executive Dating Service” option.

What To Expect

LunchDates’ matchmaking process has 3 stages. First, there’s an initial interview where you’ll learn about the service and your membership options. They’ll also ask you to share basic information about yourself, as well as what type of matches you’d like to meet.

The next step is a more in-depth consultation, which happens after you’ve purchased a contract. The matchmaking team learns more about you, your lifestyle, your interests, dealbreakers, etc. 

Once they’ve gotten all the information compiled, the matching process begins. If you purchased a basic matchmaking package, your matches will come from within the LunchDates database. 

Executive matchmaking clients can be introduced to singles scouted outside of the service as well. 

Further Reading: LunchDates reviews

 

Matchmaker of Maine (by Ron Cater)

As implied by the name, professional matchmaker Ron Cater’s business is based in Portland. However the service also has an office in Portsmouth.

Cater has been in the industry for almost 40 years, and launched Matchmaker of Maine in 1997. He is also the face behind Successful Singles, a New England matchmaking service headquartered in Boston.

Clientele

Matchmaker of Maine typically works with singles over 40, although that’s not always the case. As he explained in an interview, the business has a “certain niche within the marketplace,” adding that it isn’t “all things to all single people.”

The matchmaker doesn’t work with just anyone. For instance, all Matchmaker of Maine clients are non-smokers, and most have a college degree. 

As Cater puts it, 

We want people who are emotionally ready, emotionally available, and have realistic expectations of what they’re looking for, so we’re selective in terms of who we bring on.

Cost & Contract

Like many New Hampshire matchmaking services, pricing is nowhere to be found on their website. But based on online reviews, you can expect to spend anywhere from several hundred dollars to several thousand. 

Factors like contract length determine the cost of your membership, and contracts start at 3 months.

What To Expect

Prospective clients start with a free 40-minute consultation to see if you’re a good fit for the service. Of course, that process goes both ways. You can ask any questions you have to help you decide if this New Hampshire matchmaker is right for you.

After signing the service contract, Cater and his team get to work building your profile. You’ll provide basic information about yourself, lifestyle and interests, as well as details about what type of people you’re hoping to meet. 

Clients also take some psychometric tests, personality quizzes, etc. to help the team screen potential matches. You’ll then be matched with other paying clients, and singles who have included their profiles in the Cater’s database.

 

Cara Matchmaking (by Noreen Rochester)

Cara, meaning ‘beloved companion’ in Gaelic, is indicative of Noreen Rochester’s passion for helping people find love. She has been in the matchmaking industry for over 30 years, and launched Cara Matchmaking in 2013.

As she explained in an interview with The Portland Phoenix, she embraces a very traditional approach to her craft.

My business is old school. I don’t have a database, I have pink and blue and yellow files and a million sticky notes.

Cara Matchmaking is headquartered in Biddeford, Maine but has an affiliated office in Portsmouth. 

Clientele

Like Cater, Rochester specializes in helping daters in their 40s+ but works with singles in their 20s and 30s as well. In an interview with Sun Journal, she said her clients are hoping to meet that one someone special.

They don’t necessarily want to get out there and meet 20 or 30 or 40 people. They’re letting me do my job, the way I want to do it, which is find their match.

Cost & Contract

Rochester’s matchmaking service costs $499 for a 1-year contract. 

What To Expect

A traditional boutique matchmaking service, clients are matched with other clients within Rochester’s database. The process starts with an initial consultation where you’ll discuss your partner preferences.

If you move forward with the service, she’ll check her roster for singles who meet your criteria. She’ll typically present up to 5 profiles, and you can decide if you’re interested in meeting them. If no sparks fly, she’ll work on finding the next batch.

When there is mutual interest, she’ll arrange either a date or a phone call for the two of you.

While your proactive search lasts for a year, if you end up not meeting anyone there is no charge to leave your profile in her roster. She won’t be actively searching on your behalf anymore, but may contact you if you fit what a paying client is seeking.

Further Reading: Cara Matchmaking reviews