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7 Tinder Icebreakers [That Actually Work!]

Need a few Tinder icebreakers that get even the hottest of the hotties responding?

Tinder Icebreakers

If you’re one of those guys that defaults to “Hey baby”, “Hi there” or “Ur beautiful”, then read on. We’re about to hook you up with 7 Tinder icebreaker examples that actually work!

These lines are straight from VIDA Select's dating experts - so you're getting material that's been tested & proven to work. We've spent hundreds of thousands of hours on Tinder, sending messages on behalf of all the singles who use our service.

We track the effectiveness of every message, which means the icebreakers we're about to reveal are backed by a powerful combination of data analysis and firsthand experience!

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#1 - Bring The Funny

funny tinder message

Dating app icebreakers need to elicit a positive emotional response, otherwise she’ll immediately move on to the next guy. Humor works well, if you can pull it off. And funny gifs are just the thing for making her laugh.

In fact, according to Tinder’s data geeks, messages containing GIFs are 30% more likely to get a response, plus the conversation will last 2x longer. That, my friend, is a train you need to hop on.

#2 - Funny + Jimmy Fallon = Response

If she’s attractive, you’ve got pretty stiff competition because she can afford to set a high bar. Your message needs to stand out from all those other guys, because if it’s not memorable, she’s already moved on.

Pair an animated gif with a funny icebreaker like the example below, and you’re golden.

really funny message to send on Tinder

#3 - Funny Guys Finish First

Sensing a theme yet? Seriously though, women are biologically programmed to find funny men irresistible. Think of comedy like a Darwinian cheat code to her heart, and use it to your full advantage with a smile-inducing message like this:

Tinder icebreaker that works

#4 - Whet Her Appetite

Okay, so if funny isn’t your thing, we’ve still got you covered. Turns out, food is almost as good as laughs when it comes to getting a response on a dating app. If you can get her craving something delicious, she’s 40% more likely to respond to your message:

tinder icebreaker that really works

But here’s the catch - you need to use words that are actually mouth watering if you want to get her salivating. So stick with cheesecake, chocolate, wine… and save the beer and wings talk for your bros.

#5 - Spark a Fantasy

No, not that kind. Remember this sage Tinder icebreaker advice: Keep it classy if you want to score dates with high-quality women who are likely tired of raunchy pick-up lines.

Dating giant PlentyOfFish surveyed thousands of singles, and found the eggplant and the peach emoji are among the least likely to get you a reply.

So send her a message that kicks off a pleasant daydream. If you get her imagining something pleasurable, like tropical beaches and long naps, she starts associating you with good feelings.

Try a feel-good message like this:

tinder icebreaker

#6 - Play To Her Ego

Conversation starters that invite a Tinder match to share something about herself can be highly effective. Research shows talking about yourself stimulates pleasure centers in the brain - so get her brain going in the right direction:

tinder icebreaker message example

But there’s a difference between inviting her to talk about herself and being overly complimentary. You already know that gushing about her physical appearance doesn’t cut it- when’s the last time “Hey girl, you fine” worked out for you?

#7 - Seem Interested In The “Real” Her

If she’s attractive and on Tinder, you can bet she’s sick of hearing about it. We just talked about that in #6, and it’s worth repeating. She knows she’s hot, so focus on something intangible - trust us, she’ll find it refreshing.

A question icebreaker signals that you want to get to know her better, as in this example:

tinder icebreaker example

So there you have it - 7 of the best Tinder icebreakers she's ever seen. If you want the very best odds of turning your ice breaker into a date, take a minute to check out your Tinder bio and photos. She'll likely give those a higher level of scrutiny before agreeing to meet you in person.

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