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Dating Agencies 411: America's Top 10 Matchmaking Services

Hiring a dating agency is well worth the money. It’s by far the easiest way to meet compatible, high-quality singles when a successful career limits the time you have for meeting new "relationship-worthy" people.

Of course, it’s only worth it when you hire a good one.

And as you’ve likely discovered - there are hundreds to choose from. Figuring out which professional matchmaking services are legit and which ones are more interested in the contents of your wallet than your heart can be a daunting task.

So start your research here, with this list of America’s top 10 matchmaking services!

Serious Matchmaking

Top matchmaker Janis Spindel

Founder

Janis Spindel

Clientele

Janis and her daughter Carly Spindel work primarily with affluent men seeking marriage/serious relationships.

Location

Headquartered in New York City, with affiliated locations in over 25 cities across the US and Canada.

Cost

$50,000 to $1,000,000 to work directly with Janis Spindel, or $25,000 to $350,000+ with Carly. You also have the option to work with both of the Spindels, starting at $80,000.

Serious Matchmaking contracts include both a signing fee and finder's fee. The amount varies by client, but once it's determined you'll be the same amount for both. Signing fees start at $65,000, and the finder's fee is owed in the instance you enter a successful relationship with one of your matches. That includes dating for 12 months, getting engaged, or moving in together.

For a one-time “screening fee” of $250-$1250, women can meet with a matchmaker to see if they meet the Spindel’s requirements for joining the database of eligible singles.

New York singles can also purchase a “Flash Match” package for $6,000. It’s a single event where you’ll meet 6 women selected by Carly Spindel at a posh NYC location.

Contract

12 months, which includes 12 introductions

Matchmaking Process

First, you’ll meet with one of the Spindels in person, generally over a meal, so she can get to know you and vice versa. Membership options will be presented, and if you decide to hire Serious Matchmaking you’ll sign the contract and pay the fee up front. You’ll then be matched with compatible local singles from their database.

In Business Since

1993

Further Reading

Janis and Carly Spindel reviews

Kelleher International

Top matchmaker Jill Kelleher

Founder

Jill Kelleher

Clientele

Jill Kelleher and her daughter Amber Kelleher-Andrews work with affluent, often high profile clients who value discretion.

Location

Headquartered in San Francisco, with affiliated locations in 17 cities across the US, plus offices in London, Vancouver, and Toronto.

Cost

A local matchmaking service package starts at $30,000. You can also opt for a national search, starting at $45,000, or a global search starting at $150,000 and ranging over $300,000.

Contract

1 to 3 years, which includes a 12 months of “hold” time. The number of matches provided varies per client, but generally falls between 8 and 13.

Matchmaking Process

Signing up starts with an in-person or Skype consultation. If you’re accepted as a client, you’ll sign the contract.

You’ll be meeting singles from the Kelleher’s database, which has around 50,000 profiles in it. Your matchmaker may also scout for compatible singles “out in the wild” if you opt for a higher level of service.

Matches will be presented to you, and whenever both halves of the match are interested in meeting, phone numbers are exchanged. After each date you’ll have the opportunity to check in with your matchmaker about how it went, and whether or not your match fit your “perfect partner” criteria.

In Business Since

1986

Barbie Adler Selective Search matchmaker

Founder

Barbie Adler

Clientele

Adler works primarily with successful men who are looking for marriage or a committed relationship.

Location

Headquartered in Chicago, and has a network of affiliated matchmakers in major cities like New York City, Boston, Los Angeles, Washington DC, Miami and Houston.

Cost

Women can join Selective Search as an “Affiliate” for free, but may not be matched with paying clients.

Matchmaking services start at $25,000 for matches in one city. Meeting singles in up to 5 locations starts at $50,000. Men 35 and younger can purchase the “Young Executive” package for $15,000.

Contract

12 months, which includes up to 10 matches. However the Young Executives contract can be either 6 or 12 months, and it includes up to 6 matches. You can negotiate a “defined hold period” into your contract, and it must be used in increments of 30 days.

Matchmaking Process

Selective Search limits their active client list to approximately 500 across the US at any given time, so Adler is fairly selective about who she’ll take on as a new client.

Potential clients start with a 2-hour interview, the first step in what she calls the “The Meet Your Future®” process. Assuming you move forward with a membership, you’ll then work with your matchmaker to create a “Benchmarks” document, which describes all the criteria you desire your ideal partner to embody.

You’ll then be shown profiles of singles in the Selective Search database - called Affiliates - and have the opportunity to meet the ones who intrigue you. Both you and your match meet separately with your matchmaker after the date, and you’ll both give and receive constructive feedback as necessary.

In Business Since

2000

Further Reading

Selective Search reviews

Millionaire’s Club

Millionaire matchmaker Patti Stanger

Founder

Patti Stanger

Clientele

Stanger is a celebrity matchmaker (you may have caught her show Millionaire Matchmaker on Bravo), and attracts similarly high profile clients such as CEOs, pro athletes, and celebs.

Location

Headquartered in Los Angeles, but offers her services to singles in San Francisco, Silicon Valley, and other major cities across the US.

Cost

$45,000 to over $150,000. To work one-on-one with Stanger, you’ll have to pay an additional $35,000. Women can join Stanger’s database for free, provided they meet her strict requirements.

Millionaire’s Club also offers stand alone “Mixer” events, starting at $20,000 if you’re already a member, or $35,000 if you haven’t purchased her matchmaking services. Depending on which Mixer package you choose, you’ll meet 10-25 singles over the course of the event.

Contract

12 months, with unlimited matches. You’ll also have 2 months of “hold” time.

Matchmaking Process

Potential clients have an initial consultation, either in person or by phone. If you move forward, you’ll sign a contract and pay the membership fee in full.

Your matchmaker will then select compatible matches from the Millionaire’s Club database of around 30,000 singles. When one intrigues you, the date will be scheduled and you can let your matchmaker know your thoughts afterward.

In Business Since

2000

Further Reading

Patti Stanger reviews

Linx Dating

Top matchmaker Amy Andersen Linx Dating

Founder

Amy Andersen

Clientele

She specializes in helping executive-type men and women in the Silicon Valley area find their perfect partner.

Location

Headquartered in Menlo Park, but Andersen also works with clients in the Middle East, Europe, and Asia who want to meet Silicon Valley singles.

Cost

$45,000 - $500,000 Men under 31 and women under 30 can join as “referral clients,” meaning they are added to the database of Silicon Valley singles but aren’t guaranteed matches.

Women can also join the database for free as a “Match Applicant,” however a success fee will be due if you enter into an exclusive relationship with a Linx match.

Contract

24 months, with 8 to 10+ introductions depending on your package level. Memberships include up to 4 months of hold time.

Matchmaking Process

Potential clients start by filling out an online profile form, followed by an additional, lengthier questionnaire. If Andersen feels her exclusive matchmaking service can help you, you’ll come in for a 90-minute in-person interview, which costs several hundred dollars.

If you decide to move forward, you’ll sign the contract and have another meeting with your matchmaker to discuss all your ideal partner hopes and dreams. After that, you’ll be introduced to singles from Linx’s database, or with highly compatible people Andersen or her team recruits on your behalf.

In Business Since

2003

Further Reading

Linx Dating reviews

The Bevy

The Bevy matchmakers

Founder

Greta Tufvesson & Nikki Lewis

Clientele

Mostly via referral, successful men and women ages 23-60 who want to find a long term relationship or marriage. It’s a boutique matchmaker service, so they generally only take on 25 or so clients at a time.

Location

The Bevy has offices in Los Angeles, New York City, San Diego and San Francisco.

Cost

Matchmaking services start around $25,000. Women can have a profile included in The Bevy database for free, although a screening process must be passed.

Contract

12 months for an agreed upon number of matches.

Matchmaking Process

Memberships start by filling out a short application, then coming in for an “informal” meeting where you’ll get to know the matchmakers, and vice versa. If the service seems like a mutual good fit, you’ll sign a contract and pay the membership fee.

Matches are pulled from The Bevy’s database, and while you’ll get a short description, you won’t see any photos. You can also meet local singles via exclusive “members only” events.

In Business Since

2014

Further Reading

The Bevy reviews

LUMA Luxury Matchmaking

(Previously Known As “Cupid’s Cronies”)

April Davis LUMA search

Founder

April Davis

Clientele

LUMA works with both genders as paying clients, generally successful career-minded singles in the late 20s and up.

Location

Headquartered in Minneapolis, but LUMA has a national presence. They’re in 17 states with over 40 locations.

Cost

There’s no cost to have your profile included in the database of around 20,000 singles, but no guarantee of any matches either. Matchmaking services start around $2,800 and can go upwards of $50,000.

Contract

You’ll sign a binding contract, but length of time is customized for each client’s membership package. You’ll meet a minimum of 3 matches.

Matchmaking Process

Each LUMA matchmaker generally works with only 15 to 20 clients at any given time. After the initial meeting, your matchmaker will pull the profiles of up to 40 local singles who meet your match criteria. She’ll then screen those profiles even further, and narrow down the pool even further.

Those matches will then be called in for an in person interview. Of the group that’s interviewed, you’re guaranteed to meet at least 3 of them. If the two of you hit it off during the date, you can exchange phone numbers and take it from there.

Every LUMA matchmaker is also certified as a life coach, so you’ll receive a minimum of 5 hours of date coaching as part of your membership package.

In Business Since

2010

Further Reading

LUMA Luxury Matchmaking reviews

Three Day Rule

Matchmaker Talia Goldstein Three Day Rule

Founder

Talia Goldstein

Clientele

Men and women ranging from their mid-20s to mid-60s, typically looking for committed relationships and marriage.

Location

Headquartered in Los Angeles, with affiliated locations in 8 other large cities: New York, Chicago, Boston, Orange County, Philadelphia, Silicon Valley, DC, and San Francisco.

Cost

Matchmaking services start at $5,900 and range north of $18,500 for VIP memberships. Joining the database as a “local” single available for matching with paying clients is free.

Contract

At least 3 guaranteed matches over the course of 3 months, or a minimum of 6 matches over 6 months.

Matchmaking Process

After meeting with a Three Day Rule matchmaker for the initial interview, if you sign the contract you’ll be paired with “free” members in the database, or with other paying clients.

You also may meet local singles from OkCupid, JDate, ChristianMingle, or Match.com, as Three Day Rule has a partnership with those online dating sites. If needed, the local matchmaking team may also recruit “out of network” at local events or even stores like Whole Foods.

When a good match is identified, you get to review photos and a profile. If you accept the match, you’ll get contact info so you can arrange a meeting.

In Business Since

2013

Further Reading

Three Day Rule reviews

Exclusive Matchmaking

Susan Trombetti

Founder

Susan Trombetti

Clientele

She markets herself as a “millionaire matchmaker,” and tends to attract successful, wealthy men in their 30s and up. She also offers a matchmaking package exclusively for men between 21 and 32 years old in Maryland, DC, and Virginia.

Location

Headquartered in Annapolis, Exclusive Matchmaking also has 20 other locations across the US, mainly on the east and west coasts.

Cost

The initial consultation is either $350 via Skype, or $550 in person. Provided they pass this initial screening, women can then have a profile included in the Exclusive Matchmaking database with no further charges.

Matchmaking services for men typically cost between $7,500 and $125,000. The package for younger men is $3,500.

Contract

You’ll sign a contract that’s customized for each client’s membership package.

Matchmaking Process

Assuming you purchase a membership package after the initial interview, you’ll be matched with other clients and members in the “free” database. With the exception of the “Young Executives” clients, all paying members also receive date coaching.

In Business Since

2011

Further Reading

Susan Trombetti reviews

VIDA Select

Scott Valdez

Founder

Scott Valdez

Clientele

Valdez takes on both men and women as paying clients, typically professionals in their 30s to early 60s seek marriage or a serious relationship.

Location

An international matchmaking service, VIDA Select matchmakers can work with singles in or near any major city in the world.

Cost

VIDA Select clients choose from a spectrum of matchmaking packages offered across 3 different levels of service: Basic, Premium and Elite. Package cost is highly correlated with the total of hours that should be committed to your search for highly compatible matches.

Factors like the complexity of your "ideal partner" criteria and how many cities you'd like to include in your search are considered when selecting the best option for you.

Basic packages begin at just $995 per month. Premium packages start at $1595/month and Elite options start at only $2395/month.

Contract

No contract! Unlike the other elite matchmaking services on this list, VIDA allows clients to pay by the month.

Matchmaking Process

VIDA’s matchmakers know exactly how to leverage the world’s largest pool of eligible, intriguing singles.

That means you’ll only be meeting high-quality, “soulmate potential” people who match all of the criteria you provide. Your matchmaker will show you full profiles and photographs of each carefully selected match, and you get to pre-approve each one!

It all starts with a free, 20-minute phone consultation with a matchmaker.

The next step is an in-depth interview where your matchmaker will get to know you, and talk about your idea of a perfect partner. Then the VIDA team will work their magic, and schedule dates with incredible local singles - in any city you want to date in!

In Business Since

2009

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