Dating in Silicon Valley isn’t easy due to the gender discrepancy – men are faced with fierce competition, and women are often overwhelmed with all the attention they get on dating apps and sites.
A professional matchmaking service is a great way to circumvent all those headaches, but with so many Silicon Valley matchmakers to choose from, deciding which one to hire can be a challenge in and of itself.
Start narrowing down your options with this guide to the best Silicon Valley matchmakers!
Amy Andersen, Linx Dating
Nicknamed the “Silicon Valley Cupid” by many Bay Area singles, Amy Andersen runs one of the most prominent Silicon Valley matchmaking services.
Clientele: She specializes in helping those in the tech industry find their perfect partner, but she’ll also work with successful singles from all backgrounds.
Cost: $35,000 – $500,000/2-year commitment
Package prices depend on factors like on how many matches you want to meet, and if they are pulled from her internal database or “scouted” from beyond the Bay Area.
There’s also a no-cost “referral” option for men under 31. You’ll be placed in the Linx database and matched with paying clients who are looking for someone who matches your description – but there’s no guarantee you’ll ever be contacted.
What To Expect: The process starts by filling out a questionnaire on the website. Linx doesn’t take incoming calls from potential clients, so this step is mandatory. A representative will reach out if they feel you’re a good candidate for the service, and schedule a 90-minute consultation. The consultation costs a few hundred dollars, and you’ll learn the details of the available membership packages.
Contract Required: Yes.
Linx memberships require a 2-year contract, during which time you’ll meet between 6 and 10 potential matches, depending on your package level. All contracts include up to 4 months worth of “hold” time.
Additional Services: According to Andersen, many of her clients are highly intelligent, but haven’t yet mastered the “emotional” side of dating. She often coaches her clients not to treat dating (and love) as if it were a problem that needed solving, and that over analyzing matters of the heart can come off as a bit robotic and cold. That’s one of the reasons she offers date coaching. Clients also have access to image consulting, styling help, and other “concierge” type services.
Founded In: 2003
Further Reading: Linx Dating Reviews
Talia Goldstein, Three Day Rule
Unlike Linx Dating, Three Day Rule isn’t originally based in Silicon Valley. It’s a national matchmaking service headquartered in Santa Monica that’s backed by IAC, the parent company of popular dating sites like Match.com.
The Silicon Valley branched opened in San Jose in early 2017, and is one of many locations around the US.
Clientele: Both men and women can become paying clients, usually ranging in age from 20s to 60s.
Cost: $5,000 – $7,500/3- or 6-month commitment
It’s free for both men and women to join Three Day Rule’s national database of eligible singles, and your profile will be considered for matching with paying clients. However, if you want matchmakers to actively match you with other singles, you’ll need to become a “premium” member.
Three Day Rule membership packages start at $5,000, which includes 3 to 6 introductions over a period of 3 months.
For $7,500, you’ll get 6 to 12 introductions over the course of 6 months, as well as a professional photo session.
Three Day Rule also offers “VIP” memberships, the prices of which may vary depending on your particular search requirements.
What To Expect: Paying clients can be matched with each other, singles who are included in the database for free, or with matches scouted on major online dating sites. Three Day Rule has agreements in place with OkCupid, ChristianMingle, JDate and Match.com, and will pull compatible matches from those dating sites as needed.
For each potential match, you’ll see photos and a profile. If there’s mutual interest, contact information is exchanged on your behalf and you can reach out to schedule a first date.
Contract Required: Yes.
Paying members are required to sign either a 3- or 6-month contract. Worth noting is the fact that it’s an “endeavor to find” style contract, meaning you’re not actually guaranteed a match that fits all your stated criteria – only that the service will try to find suitable singles.
|Pro Tip: This “endeavor to find” style of contract is common in the matchmaking industry. Make sure you fully understand your contract before inking your signature, so there are no surprises down the road when it comes to exactly what you get for your money.|
Additional Services: Three Day Rule also offers 50-minute “Dating Strategy” Skype sessions for an additional fee. The cost depends on whether you buy 1, 2 or 10 at once.
Founded In: 2013
Further Reading: Three Day Rule Reviews
April Davis, LUMA Luxury Matchmaking
Like Three Day Rule, LUMA Matchmaking is a national matchmaking service. They have 40+ locations around the US, including a presence in San Jose.
This exclusive matchmaking service is based near Minneapolis, and was formerly called “Cupid’s Cronies.”
Clientele: Men and women can both become paying clients, or be listed as “Passive” members in the database.
Cost: $2,800 – $50,000/commitment outlined in contract
A “Passive” membership is free. You won’t be actively paired with other singles, but if you meet a paying client’s criteria your profile will be considered as a potential match. However, there’s no guarantee with a Passive membership that you’ll ever meet anyone through the service.
A “Premium Search” membership package generally starts around $2,800 and can range up to $50,000. The scope of your “perfect match” criteria, how many introductions you want, and any additional coaching services your matchmaker feels you may need all affect the final price.
What To Expect: Potential clients are interviewed in person, and then assigned to a matchmaker if both sides decide to move forward with a Premium Search membership. Your matches are pulled from the LUMA database, and dates are arranged on your behalf. It’s then up to you if you choose to swap numbers during that first date.
Contract Required: Yes.
All paying clients are required to sign a contract that details the nature of the matchmaking services that will be provided.
Additional Services: Clients can opt to receive both date and “relationship” coaching.
Founded In: 2010
Further Reading: LUMA Luxury Matchmaking Reviews
Erica Arrechea, Cinque Matchmaking
Erica Arrechea started Cinque Matchmaking after getting certified by the Matchmaking Institute. Cinque has branches throughout California, including Silicon Valley, and also works with a network of matchmakers across the US and Canada.
Clientele: Men and women from 25 to 70 can join Cinque’s database of eligible singles for free, or purchase a membership for an active search on their behalf.
Cost: $5,000 to $20,000+/commitment varies by client
Joining Cinque’s “network” of eligible members is free, but comes with no guaranteed matches as no search is done for you. Instead, you’ll be considered for any paying members whose criteria you happen to match, but that’s an “if” – not a when.
Paying memberships can run over $20,000, depending on a host of factors like how narrow/broad your “ideal match” criteria are, how many introductions you’d like, the geographical scope of your search, etc.
What To Expect: Prospective clients start with a phone screening. If you meet Cinque’s “matchable” criteria, you’ll interview with the matchmaking team. Assuming you come on board as a client, you’ll be assigned a specific matchmaker.
Clients receive unlimited matches, however it’s on you to call them and get the first date scheduled. Your matchmaker will help arrange the introductory phone call.
Contract Required: Yes.
Additional Services: Cinque also offers date coaching and image consulting, which is included in some but not all packages.
Founded In: 2013
Scott Valdez, VIDA
VIDA’s modern matchmaking service uses extensive data analysis and the latest tech to pull highly compatible matches from Silicon’s Valley largest database of eligible singles.
Clientele: Men and women in their mid 20s to 60s+ seeking a serious relationship.
Cost: $495 to $1695/month to month
VIDA has a selection of membership packages, all paid on a month-to-month basis.
What To Expect: VIDA delivers executive matchmaking services, but unlike the other Silicon Valley matchmakers listed, you aren’t required to commit to a lengthy contract. Instead, you have the freedom to pay only for each month you’d like to go on dates with high-quality, pre-screened matches who meet all your compatibility requirements. And you get unlimited matches!
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Contract Required: No.
You can pause, stop and restart your service at any time.
Additional Services: Date coaching, image and style consulting, and professional photography services.
Founded In: 2009