How much does H4M Matchmaking cost?

H4M costs "in the thousands, not the tens of thousands" according to founder Tammy Shaklee, though exact pricing isn't disclosed online. The total price depends on your assigned matchmaker, package specifics, and contract length. This is notably less than many luxury matchmakers charging $20,000-$300,000+, though more than monthly services like VIDA Select ($1,595+/month).

What does H4M stand for?

H4M stands for "He's For Me" and originally catered to men seeking men when Tammy Shaklee founded it in Austin in 2012. The service has since expanded to include all LGBTQ+ singles seeking love, serving gay, lesbian, and LGBTQ+ individuals throughout Texas and nationwide.

Does H4M show photos before dates?

No, H4M uses a blind dating approach without showing photos before first meetings. Shaklee conducts extensive research ensuring clients don't know each other but provides no photographs beforehand, calling them "total blind dates." After first and second dates, clients provide feedback. H4M steps back after the second date, letting clients plan subsequent meetings themselves.

Who founded H4M and why?

Tammy Shaklee founded H4M in 2012 after trying to help a friend connect with a matchmaker and discovering a distinct lack of services tailored to the LGBTQ+ community. Her friend became her first client. Shaklee's goal is to "lead with love" and provide pro-equality matchmaking with encouragement and support to all LGBTQ+ singles.

What areas does H4M serve?

H4M is headquartered in Austin, Texas, and serves singles throughout Texas as well as nationally. The service provides LGBTQ+ matchmaking for gay, lesbian, and all LGBTQ+ singles seeking meaningful relationships across the United States, with over a decade of experience working with this community.

How does H4M's matchmaking process work?

The process starts with an online inquiry or phone call for an introductory consultation, followed by a video interview with Tammy Shaklee if you seem like a good fit. After passing a background check, you're paired with other H4M clients or scouted candidates. Matches receive detailed information but no photos before blind first dates. After mutual interest in a second date, H4M plans it. After the second date, clients plan subsequent dates themselves.

What is H4M's approach to discretion?

H4M acknowledges discretion needs for clients who may be out personally but not professionally. Shaklee describes serving "wonderful men who happen to be gay, but they don't necessarily lead with that." The service provides added confidentiality layers while maintaining inclusive, professional matchmaking that treats all clients equally and as professionally as they treat their own clients.

How successful is H4M at creating relationships?

On average, one-fourth to one-third of H4M clients have memberships on hold while exploring relationships with matches, indicating strong relationship formation rates. Shaklee emphasizes "traditional introductions, courting, and dating" with clients reporting the third date (when H4M steps back) is "the most anticipated third date they've ever had."

What dating advice does Tammy Shaklee give?

Shaklee advises singles to avoid snap judgments based on single dates, noting you don't know if someone will be a great match "in the first five minutes" just as you didn't know your best friends would become best friends immediately. For heartbreak recovery, she suggests viewing life as "a series of chapters" and to "keep turning the page and grow based on what you have experienced and learned." All product and company names are trademarks™ or registered® trademarks of their respective holders. Use of them does not imply any affiliation with or endorsement by them.