Is Bumble better, or should you stick with Tinder?
They’re both wildly popular dating apps – but is Bumble the right choice for you? This Bumble review has everything you need to decide!
Bumble Pros & Cons
PRO: Women aren’t overwhelmed with unwanted messages since only they can initiate contact. Since she opted to contact you, it’s relatively easy to move things off the app.
PRO: According to one of the app’s founders, 60% of matches result in a conversation.
PRO: The app’s gender demographics are roughly equal, with 55% of users being male.
PRO: Setting up an account is easy, because your bio can’t be longer than 300 characters.
CON: Men can’t send the first message – only women can initiate a conversation. So if you’ve got some great icebreakers in your arsenal, you won’t get a chance to use them.
CON: She only has 24 hours to initiate contact with you once you’ve both swiped right, so if a woman you’re interested in doesn’t send you a message, the match is lost. (But keep reading for a way to extend the deadline!)
CON: Search criteria consists of gender, age and location, with only limited information available about your matches. If you’re looking for specific criteria, like a 23-year-old brunette who wants kids someday, try an online dating site like Match.com instead.
VERDICT: If you can stomach the idea of waiting for her to make the first move, give Bumble a try… especially if you’re a reasonably handsome guy with strong pictures. It can be nice feeling like the pursued instead of the pursuer every once in awhile, and Bumble makes that possible!
Everything You Need To Know About Bumble
Bumble is a free dating app built on the same model as Tinder, but with one unique twist – women are in the driver’s seat when it comes to starting a conversation.
Bumble aims to cut down on the number of sleazy messages women often get bombarded with on other mobile dating apps, so men can’t send the first message.
If you’re the guy whose standard approach to messaging consists of “Hey baby, nice ___” this probably isn’t the app for you. (And if you are that guy, you should definitely read this article for some Tinder pickup lines that actually work).
|Interesting Tidbit: After one of Tinder’s founders, Whitney Wolfe, filed a highly controversial sexual harassment lawsuit against Tinder and its parent company IAC, she decided to start a more “women-friendly” app.
The just over $1,000,000 settlement and embarrassing scandal apparently wasn’t enough vindication for Whitney. She also decided to take a big bite out of Tinder’s market, and successfully built Bumble, one of its biggest competitors.
How Bumble Works
You can swipe right or left to indicate your interest level, or let someone know you’re really interested by using a SuperSwipe.
When you both swipe right a “connection” is made. Once that happens, the woman has only 24 hours to initiate a conversation or the match is lost.
Bumble gives users the option to go beyond the usual back and forth messaging and move to a voice or video call within the app.
That feature appeals to a lot of women, as you don’t need to exchange phone numbers in order to talk to a match.
Here is how Bumble’s Video Call and Voice Chat works:
Once you’ve matched with someone, you’ll see a phone and a video icon on the messaging screen:
Simply tap one of the two icons and your match can accept the incoming voice or video chat, which launches the call within the app:
For women, initiating a call of either type counts as the first move. Men will only see those icons once a match has reached out, either with an icebreaker or by tapping the phone/video icons.
Bumble's video and voice chat feature is available across all three modes, Date, BFF, and Bizz (more on those coming up!)
Expert Bumble Tip #1: The best time to message on Bumble is between 8 and 10 pm.
For guys, Bumble is all about the photos and bio – after all, she’s got to feel compelled to message you. Unfortunately, that awesome opening line you’ve been crushing it with on Tinder isn’t going to help.
Some guys can do VERY well on Bumble. So if you’re fairly easy on the eyes, you may discover Bumble is better than Tinder for you.
Expert Bumble Tip #2: According to in-app data, users with 6 photos get the most right swipes.
Like Tinder, Bumble allows you to search for matches based on distance, age range, and gender. Profiles can include up to six photos, a short About Me section, and some background information like education and job title.
Bumble fake profiles aren’t all that common, at least compared to Tinder or a free dating site like POF. That’s largely due to Bumble’s verification process, which prompts you to take a selfie while copying a specified gesture, like this one:
Bumble isn’t just for dating – there are two other modes you can use to meet new people. Bumble BFF is for meeting new friends, and Bumble Bizz is for networking.
To change modes, simple tap the Bumble logo at the top of the page, and toggle between all three.
Is Bumble Free?
Yes – you can use it effectively without spending a cent.
But there are some handy paid features that make it easier to get matches. Starting at $8.99 a week, you can upgrade to “Bumble Boost,” which gives you access to three premium features:
- BeeLine – this feature alone makes the low monthly cost worthwhile. In this section, you only see profiles of women who have already liked you, so a match is guaranteed. That will save you a ton of swiping time.
- Rematch – you can now reconnect with past matches for an extra 24 hours.
- Busybee – allows you to extend the 24-hour match window.
How much Bumble Boost costs depends on the length of your subscription. If you buy a 3 or 6-month subscription, the price is discounted:
To see if paying for Bumble makes sense for you, check out this Bumble Boost review.
You can also use “Bumble Coins,” the in-app currency, to purchase SuperSwipes. Similar in concept to Tinder’s SuperLikes, using a SuperSwipe lets her know you’re serious about wanting to make a connection.
Each SuperSwipe costs $1.99 (one coin), with a discount if you purchase coins in bulk:
You can download the Bumble app here:
Reviews From Around The Web
Bumble seems to be a hit with single, professional women. A writer for InStyle.com said she really responded to Bumble’s women-in-control model:
“It forced me to focus on only the men I was actually interested in speaking with rather than the connections made while right swiping with reckless abandon.”
And NYC-based writer/blogger Tillie Adelson called Bumble a “win win” situation for men and women:
“Men are able to be confident when a woman reaches out to them and thus move faster towards an in-person interaction. Women can swipe right all they want then decide later if they really are interested and want to reach out. It’s a win, win and since everyone knows the rules of the Bumble game, it should alleviate any shyness the women have in terms of being the first to reach out.”
Men, on the other hand, gave it more mixed reviews. Writer Philip Wegmann said that while Bumble is a great hookup app, it’s not such a great way for women to find The One:
“But even if users do discover someone “relationship-ready,” they’re likely to be left unsatisfied. Why?
Because men too lazy to make the first move don’t buy flowers. They don’t plan picnics. They don’t remember anniversaries. They’re the wrong guy—the effeminate kind you’re embarrassed to introduce to your father or the rude kind you’re ashamed to meet your mother. So log out, bet on yourself instead, and recognize that there a still a few good men out there.”
On the other hand, freelance writer Alex Huss seconded the notion that having the woman break the ice on Bumble was a confidence booster for men:
“Let me let you in on a little secret, ladies: Men are far more inclined to pursue a relationship with a woman if we think she’s into it. And, to be even more honest, we typically can’t tell the difference between “playing hard to get” and “get lost.” To save our own pride, we usually assume it’s “get lost.” ”
Step By Step Guide To Setting Up An Account
Once you’ve downloaded the app, your first name, age, occupation and education are pulled from your Facebook account.
You can add up to six photographs, and she has to scroll through all them in order to see your Bumble profile. You don’t want to lose her at your third shirtless mirror selfie, so make sure to choose strong pictures.
Select a range of photos that really showcases your lifestyle. She’s going to imagine herself with you as she’s scrolling through them, so you might want to get feedback on your photos from some female friends. Only use the pictures that they rank the highest.
You can also connect your Instagram account, which will show the 24 most recent pics from your Instagram feed on your Bumble profile. The downside is you can’t control which pictures are shown – so make sure your IG pics are worthy of a dating site.
Next up is the “About Me” section, and it’s short – 300 characters or less. That’s not a lot of space to grab her attention, so be creative. It’s worth filling out – if she’s wavering about which way to swipe based on your photos, a profile that makes her smile will make up her mind.
Click here for some tips on how to write an irresistible Bumble profile.
Before you can start swiping, you have to set your search criteria. Basic criteria include distance, age range, and gender.
Free users can choose an additional two Bumble filters, which let you screen for more attributes like education, political views, smoking/drinking habits, and more.
Upgrading to Bumble Boost gives you access to all the Bumble Filters.
Keep in mind, though, if you want to screen your matches with a particular filter, you must first answer that question in your own profile. So if you only want to date singles who are over a specific height, you must provide your own height first.
The app has an “undo” feature, called a “Backtrack,” if you change your mind – just shake the phone and it undoes the swipe. But use them wisely, you’re limited to just three Backtracks a day.
When you’ve both liked each other, a connection is made and the waiting begins. She has 24 hours to send you a message before the match expires.
But if she doesn’t make the first move, all is not lost. Guys have the ability to extend the window of conversation for an additional 24 hours for one match per day. It’s kind of like the “Super Like” function on Tinder – it lets her know you really want to hear from her.
Expert Bumble Tip #3: Skip the swiping on Fridays, as that’s when users spend the least amount of time on Bumble. Remember, that countdown clock is ticking, so why start it when she’s probably not checking the app?
As with any dating app, the goal is to move things off the app as soon as possible. Don’t wait too long to ask her out – you don’t want her to lose interest in the conversation and move on to the next guy. For some expert advice on when and how to get her to say “yes” to a meet up, click here.
How To Get The Best Results On Bumble
If you’re serious about starting a relationship with someone special, putting some effort into choosing your most attractive photos and writing a compelling Bumble bio is essential. She’s making the first move, so your profile needs to compel her to message you.
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