How many texts should you send before asking a girl out?

The sweet spot is after 3-4 message exchanges each. This gives you enough time to build some rapport and gauge her interest level without dragging things out so long that she loses interest or assumes you're not serious about meeting.

What are signs she's ready to be asked out over text?

Look for quick response times, questions she asks you in return, longer messages, exclamation points and emojis, and mentions of activities or places she enjoys. These signals indicate she's engaged and would likely be receptive to meeting in person.

Should I ask about her schedule before asking her out?

Yes, it's a smooth approach. Ask something like "Got any plans this weekend?" or "What kind of trouble are you getting into later this week?" If her schedule sounds open, transition naturally into suggesting a specific date. If she's busy, you can suggest the following week instead.

How specific should I be when asking her out?

Be specific. Propose a day, time, and activity rather than a vague "we should hang out sometime." For example: "Let's grab coffee Saturday afternoon—how's 2pm at [coffee shop]?" Specific plans are easier to say yes to and show you're confident and decisive.

Should I confirm the date before we meet?

Yes, send a brief confirmation text 3-6 hours before your scheduled date. Make it a confident statement like "See you at 7!" rather than asking "Are we still on?" Phrasing it as a question gives her an easy out to cancel.

What should I do if she says "maybe" or doesn't respond?

Pivot the conversation by asking about something she's interested in—pets work especially well. You can also try sending something funny to re-engage her. Mirror her texting style and avoid ending sentences with periods, which can come across as cold. If she still seems interested after a few more exchanges, ask her out again.

How many times should I follow up if she doesn't respond?

Stop after 2-3 unanswered messages. Continuing to text after that comes across as desperate and won't change her mind. It's better to move on to other matches and invest your energy where there's mutual interest.

Why do girls stop responding after I ask them out?

There are several possible reasons: you may have asked too soon before enough rapport was built, the timing wasn't right, she's talking to other people, or she simply wasn't feeling enough of a connection. It's rarely personal—dating apps mean everyone has multiple conversations happening at once.