Tinder quickly becomes an exercise in frustration when you can’t seem to start a conversation with the matches you really want to meet.
But all that’s about to change!
Check out these 10 proven Tinder openers you can use right now, complete with screenshots so you know they actually work!
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What Makes A Tinder Opener Work
When you lead with a simple greeting, like “Hi,” “Hello,” or “What’s up,” the conversational ball is squarely in her court.
She can either respond with “Hi”, which is a conversation she’s probably already bored with, or she can think of something more clever to say. That’s work, so she probably won’t bother.
Because she doesn’t need to bother.
Women on Tinder are typically flooded with messages from guys like you – especially if she’s attractive.
If you want to succeed on this popular dating app, your Tinder opener needs to be both eye catching and easy to respond to.
That’s why the best Tinder openers to use on a girl pose an interesting question, like this:
From her perspective, you’ve already accomplished two key things:
- Given the conversation a clear direction, which already sets you apart from the majority of your less conversationally gifted competition
- Removed the burden of having to figure out what to write. If she’s pressed for time or gets a ton of messages, not having to put a lot of thought in to her reply makes it more likely she actually will.
Now that you know why what you’re currently doing doesn’t work, let’s take a look at some Tinder strategies that do work!
Tinder Strategy Guide: Opening Lines That Work
Instead Of Cheesy Pickup Lines Or Something Lame Like “Hey There,” Send This:
|PRO TIP: Include a GIF with your Tinder conversation starter. Not only will a GIF boost your response rate by 30%, Tinder says the ensuing conversation will also be twice as long.
Why do GIFs make such good Tinder openers? Simple:
That sequence is precisely why “Hey” usually doesn’t work as an opening line. It typically doesn’t spark any emotion, so that feeling of instant connection is absent.
Instead Of Complimenting Her Appearance, Send This:
News flash: if she’s attractive, she knows it. She’s probably gotten some variation of “Hey, baby nice […..]” or “Ur hot” 15 times already this week, and getting another lame pick-up line from you may just send her running to Bumble or Hinge.
The Tinder message example above pays her a light personality-based compliment, which will probably be a refreshing change. Then the question gives her the opportunity to talk about herself, which research has shown activates pleasure centers in her brain.
Subconsciously, she begins to associate you with feeling good – and that’s essential if she’s going to meet you in person or share her phone number.
Instead Of Asking “How’s Your Weekend Going?” Send This:
While asking about her weekend is better than just saying, “Hi,” it’s still a Tinder question she likely gets asked all the time. Why not put a fun creative spin on it, and let her know she’s in for a lively message exchange?
Try a message like this when the weekend is in sight:
Instead Of Saying, “Nice pics,” Send Something Like This:
These are two examples of “situational” Tinder messages. You can send them to any women who skis, snowboards, or has cats/dogs in her photos.
Over time you can develop a go-to message for things you commonly see as you’re swiping, then copy paste and fire them off in seconds.
Instead Of Doing Nothing At All, Send One Of These:
For some guys, making the first move on Tinder isn’t easy. So they swipe, match, and then wait for her to break the ice.
Don’t feel bad – it’s pretty common. In one experiment, dating coach CamMi Pham got 2,015 matches in under 24 hours, then sat back and waited for the guy to make the first move. Only 30% of them did, meaning 70% of her matches fizzled out.
There’s no need to take the passive route now that you’ve got these 10 good Tinder openers in your tool box, so grab the conversational reigns by sending one!
Figure Out What Approach Works Best For You On Tinder
To get the best results, you can either hire us to handle all your Tinder messaging for you, or you can keep track of the response rate for each message you send.
It’s likely some of these Tinder openers will work better for you than others, and you want to maximum your results as much as possible.
The age of your match is a factor, since a woman in her 20s looking for something casual will probably respond differently than a woman in her late 30s looking for something serious. It might take a while to figure out which Tinder messages work best for the type of women you’re interested in.
Is keeping tabs on every single message you send tedious? Sure. But the data you’ll get is worth it in the end, and using this response rate calculator will make it a little easier.
The time you send your messages will factor into your response rate as well. If you fire off a message when she’s likely commuting to or from work, or during the day when she’s busy, she may not get around to responding later.
But if you send your Tinder opener when she’s more apt to be using the app, the odds of a response increase. Here are Tinder’s peak usage times, straight from the folks at Nielsen:
Since the most activity occurs between 5 pm and midnight, aim to send your Tinder messages during this time frame. It also means you’re more likely to get into a “live” message exchange, which is great for moving things off the app quickly.
Momentum is key – you want to move things off the app before she drifts away or deletes her Tinder profile.
If Your Tinder Opener Doesn't Work…
Don't sweat it. There are no magical Tinder pick-up lines guaranteed to work 100% of the time.
But if she doesn’t reply to your icebreaker, don’t throw in the towel. There are hundreds of reasons why she may not have responded, and only one of them is “It’s not me, it’s you.”
On Hinge, following up with a second message increases the odds you'll get a response this time around, and there's no reason why it would be any different on Tinder, Bumble, or any other dating app.
Send a playful follow up message like this:
The example above works no matter what your initial message said, and it’s a great way to get her attention and make her smile. A humorous message helps build attraction, because it’s a personality trait women find irresistible. (Want more conversation starters that will make her smile? Check out these funny Tinder openers!)
Alternatively, a simple GIF like this one also works, no matter what Tinder icebreaker you sent:
If she still doesn’t respond to your follow up message, then it’s time to focus your efforts elsewhere. You don’t want to radiate desperation, or give her a reason to block you.
The Best Way To Meet High-Quality Women On Tinder
You’ve got all the tools you need to be successful on Tinder – 10 proven Tinder openers and when to send them. But do you have the time? The average guy spends 1 ½ hours checking Tinder 10x a day, which quickly adds up to around 10 ½ hours a week.
Dating apps are fast paced, and if you can’t keep up the best local women will be dating your competition instead. You’ve got to put in the hours to reap the rewards… or just hire VIDA to handle it all for you.
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