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Expert Tips For Cougar Dating [Meet Your Hottest Matches!]

If you want to meet the most attractive women on cougar dating sites and apps, you need to show her why you’re a better catch than your competition.

How you present yourself online is crucial - but don’t worry, you’ve got this.

These 7 cougar dating tips actually work!

#1: Be Eye Candy - No Matter What You Look Like

She’s looking for a fun, energetic younger guy - make sure your photos deliver.

Your primary photo has the biggest immediate impact, and it needs to make her think, “Now there’s someone I’d like to spend time with.”

cougar dating photo tip

A bright, vibrant pic taken outdoors at an interesting location is a huge step in the right direction. Leading with anything that’s reflected in a mirror - especially if it’s your bathroom mirror, is the equivalent of waving a sign that says “I don’t get out much.”

Whether she’s looking for a hookup or a significant relationship, she still has standards. And if you want a chance to meet a smoking hot cougar, those standards are likely high.

Here are a few things you can do to catch her attention online:

  • Eye contact is crucial for sparking a connection, so skip the sunglasses.
  • Choose a shot where you’re not fading into the background - more contrast is better than less.
  • Simplicity work best in the primary spot because the brain has a strong preference for images that are easy to process. So: no filters, good lighting, crystal clear quality, and just you in the frame. Preferably from mid-chest up for the most visual impact.
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#2: Username = First Impression

CougarLife, one of the best cougar dating sites out there, requires a username. Chances are your real first name is already taken, and you want to get more creative than “Brad11223.”

But if you don’t know what makes a username attractive, getting creative can backfire in a big way.

These 5 username tips for cougar dating sites will help you avoid making the same mistakes these guys did:

Don’t use any variation of the word “Mom.”

Virtually guaranteed mood killer.

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Instead: Give her the impression you’re a confident, ambitious man.

Good Username Example:

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Don’t make an age reference.

She doesn’t need to be reminded why she’s on a cougar site.

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Instead: Highlight an attractive personality trait in a subtle way, like strength or physical fitness.

Good Username Example:

username example for cougar site
Don’t suggest that you require libido-enhancing drugs.

In fact, don’t mention drugs of any kind.

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Instead: Give her a taste of what it would be like to spend time with you.

Good Username Example:

good username for online dating

Don’t hint at deception, dishonesty or anything negative.

Why make her think twice about checking out your profile?

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Instead: A positive approach works much better on dating sites - you only get one first impression, so don’t torpedo it.

Good Username Example:

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Don’t reference what you want from her.

Instant turn off - she needs to be impressed by you first.

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Instead: Focus on what you bring to the table.

Good Username Example:

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#3: Write A “Clickable” Headline

Some cougar sites and apps include a teaser or headline that’s prominently displayed next to your photo and username in her search results - and what you put there can have a huge impact on your results.

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If you make her cringe, she’s not reading any further. Follow the same rules that you would for a username - keep it positive, intriguing and appealing.

A good dating headline entices her, and makes her curious to read more about you. Here are some good headline examples for a cougar dating site:

good cougar dating headlines

Now that you’ve got a good start on your profile, here are some more general tips on cougar dating life!

#4: Adjust your perspective.

You may need to alter your approach a bit, compared to how you might pursue someone closer to your own age.

When it comes to dating older women, confidence is key. They tend to have a “been there/done that” attitude, and typically have far less patience for mind games and drama.

No one is on CougarLife hoping to snag a new penpal, so when you start seeing signs she’s interested, ask her out.

#5: Don’t assume all she wants is sex.

Cougar dating sites and apps attract women looking for the entire spectrum of relationships, from hooking up to a long-term romance.

If all you want is sex, then be upfront about the type of relationship you want to have (in a classy way). Don’t give your matches any reason to think you’re seeking a long-term relationship.

And on your first date, it’s likely a good idea to reiterate that you’re just looking to date around and have fun. That clarity can help make sure she doesn’t feel disrespected during the date, or later on down the road.

#6: Be genuine.

You want to present your “best self” online and in your message exchanges, but the key is authenticity. If you’re a guy in your 20s, don’t try to act like you’re in your 40s just because she’s 40+.

She’s interested in younger men for a reason - so be true to yourself. Misleading her about where you are in your career, or exaggerating your financial status because you want to impress her isn’t sustainable - and it’s a bad idea.

Most women on dating sites are already concerned about catfishers and the like, so don’t give her a reason to ghost you.

But don’t go overboard on the honesty - there’s no reason to highlight your flaws in your dating profile. Focus on a few of your personality traits and qualities that make you a great date, and leave it at that.

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#7: Keep age out of it.

You’re younger, she’s older. No one needs a reminder. Don’t make the age gap a big deal, bring it up in conversations, or make jokes about it. But do keep in mind some differences those age gaps may cause.

For instance, she’s probably not as into texting as your peers are, so keep that in mind when you’re moving things off the dating app. And if she’s late 40s+, chivalry is likely much appreciated. Pull out chairs and open doors.

But every woman is different, so figure out what she likes, wants and prefers, then act accordingly.

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