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16 Best Tinder Pick Up Lines For 2023 (With Screenshots!)
Looking for the best Tinder pick up lines?
If you want to turn your Tinder matches into Tinder dates, you need to get the conversation started off with a bang.
You’re about to get 16 Tinder lines that work (almost) every time - ready to copy, paste and send to just about any girl.
Plus, you'll get the secrets behind why they work so you can come up with some Grade A openers on your own.
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The Best Tinder Lines Make Her Feel Something
That's crucial for any pick up line you send on a dating app. VIDA's dating experts should know - we've sent hundreds of thousands of messages on Tinder since it launched back in 2012. We use the app daily, and track the outcome of every message we send. That's how we know what works on Tinder, and what doesn't!
That's why we can definitively say if your first message fails to trigger some kind of pleasurable emotion, your response rate will plummet.
Pick Up Line #1:
Attractive women can afford to be picky - they’re weeding through hundreds of messages from guys just like you.
So if you don’t create something like the example above that immediately snags her attention and intrigues her enough to respond, she likely won’t.
This is why opening lines like “Hey, what’s up?” or “How was your weekend?” rarely compel attractive women to write you back.
The only thing you’ve made her feel is bored.
And even if she does reply to your “eh” message at first, she’s likely to stop responding before you get her number.
Boring tend to make taking things off the an uphill battle, as you need to provide a motivation for wanting to meet you in person.
Instead, ask a question that entices her, excites her, or gets her imagination flowing, like this...
Pick Up Line #2:
If it’s fun for her to think about and answer, her mind has already associated you with positive feelings - and that kind of emotional connection is essential if she’s going to say “yes” to a date.
Put A Smile On Her Face With A Funny Tinder Line
Making her laugh is one of the best ways to spark an instant connection, as a is near-universally attractive.
Pick Up Line #3:
In fact, research shows women are hardwired to find funny men irresistible.
Pickup Line #4:
But keep in mind, you have to actually be funny. Sexual aren't going to help your cause. or ,
Not every guy can pull off humorous writing, so including a funny GIF is a great way to make her chuckle.
Pick Up Line #5:
In fact, Tinder’s in-house data revealed that messages containing GIFs are 30% more likely to get a response, and the conversations last 2x longer.
Don’t just send a random image, though. Pair a funny GIF with a message that ends with a question that makes it easy for her to respond.
But you don’t have to rely solely on GIFs to bring the funny...
Pick Up Line #6:
Mentioning future events involving your match in a humorous way projects confidence, like in this example...
Pick Up Line #7:
Or this one, that jokes about marriage proposals:
Pick Up Line #8:
Want more examples of effective humor for dating apps? Check out these funny Tinder pick up lines!
But if funny isn’t your thing, don’t worry. Being clever isn’t the only way to win her heart on dating apps.
The Best Tinder Lines Get Her Craving More
Hinge conducted an experiment and found women were 40% more likely to respond to messages about food:
Pick Up Line #9:
There's no reason to think a Tinder match would respond any differently, which is why many of the best Tinder lines use delicious, mouth-watering words.
Pick Up Line #10:
Think along the lines of chocolate, wine, cheesecake… things that women often crave.
Pick Up Line #11:
Tantalize Her Imagination
Sparking a pleasurable daydream is another great way to start a Tinder conversation.
Travel is one topic women love to think about:
Pickup Line #12:
Get Her Talking About Herself
Research shows that talking about yourself is inherently pleasurable.
Self-disclosure stimulates the same areas of the brain that are associated with motivation and reward.
Pick Up Line #13:
Asking her a personality-based question that lets her think and talk about her #1 favorite topic is a good move on apps like Tinder.
Pick Up Line #14:
Answering it will make her feel good, which is a point in your favor.
These Tinder Lines Seem Tailored Just For Her
Women, especially the attractive ones, get bombarded with messages.
She’ll think it’s a refreshing change to get one that seems written just for her.
Of course, she doesn’t have to know that you send this same message to all the women who mention skiing or snowboarding in their bios...
Pick Up Line #15:
Having something in common increases attraction, since people tend to be more comfortable with other people who remind them of themselves.
So if you share an interest that she’s displayed in her profile text or one of her photos, take advantage of it by using it as your opener.
Hobbies and interests aren’t the only subjects you can target to make your messages seem tailored specifically to her.
For instance, you could send this “personalized” message to any woman with an unusual name...
Pick Up Line #16:
Pro Tinder Tip: Make Your Messages Age-Appropriate
Before you go nuts sending all these Tinder pick up lines to everyone you’ve matched with, it’s worth mentioning that different messages play better with different age groups.
Some messages work best for women in their lower 20s, while others work for women in their upper 20s.
What works for a cute 23 year old might cause a more grounded 29 year old who’s looking for The One to roll her eyes and move on.
In fact, Hinge’s research confirmed what our number crunchers here at VIDA already knew - taking her age into consideration when choosing what type of message to send pays off with higher response rates.
Hinge found that these opening lines worked very well for the specific age ranges they’re listed under, but didn’t always perform so well outside of those ranges:
It's Not Just About Age...
The effectiveness of any given Tinder pickup line you could send depends not only on the women who are receiving it, but also on how you’re perceived by those women online when they look at your Tinder profile.
Attraction is a complex formula, and that’s why there are no Tinder pickup lines that work great for every guy on every woman.
If you want to maximize your results, you have to keep track of which lines work for you, and which don’t.
A simple calculation will make the winners and losers stand out so you can continually optimize your message strategy.
Go Where The Data Leads You
All you have to do is note how many times you send each opening line, and how many times it gets a response. (It takes a bit of dedication to keep track of each and every time, but the data is worth it).
Figuring out the response rate is super easy: it’s just the number of replies divided by the number of times sent.
Use this response rate calculator, or keep track of it yourself in a simple spreadsheet.
So if these were your icebreakers in the image to the left, you could see that 2, 3, 4, and 7 are keepers.
And just as important, you’d know which low performers to scrap, like 1 and 8.
Channeling your inner statistician is the only way to figure out which lines are the best Tinder icebreakers for you, so go ahead and get your geek on.
The results may surprise you.
For instance, when VIDA Select founder Scott Valdez first started testing out Tinder pickup lines, he thought “So tell me… is Jesus the only man in your life right now?” was golden because that joke always made his buddies chuckle.
However, only 14 percent of women responded to that Tinder opener.
Meanwhile, the Jameson/beautiful bastard child example from above clocked in with a 76% response rate, which surprised him.
The moral of this story?
Data-driven decisions are the best ones. Without testing, you’ll never truly figure out which Tinder pick up lines work the best for you and the women you want to meet.
If Your Tinder Line Doesn't Work…
Try again. Even the best Tinder icebreakers might not get a response every time, and the reason might have nothing to do with you.
Maybe her meeting started back up, or she got sucked into a Game of Thrones episode.
She’s got a lot of other things competing for her attention, so even dynamite opening lines can get lost in the shuffle.
So if you don’t get a response to your opener, send her a second message.
A light-hearted line that relates back to the first message lets her know you’re still interested, without seeming desperate.
Something like this should work well:
Or a stock line like this “cape and tights” one works great for just about any occasion:
It only takes a second to copy and paste a second message. Reigniting a conversation is easy when you have a stockpile of your best Tinder one liners.
But here's the catch...
While most women appreciate persistence, only send one (or max two).
If she doesn’t take the bait, move on. You don't want to seem like a guy who has no other options.
Besides, there are plenty of other attractive women on Tinder!
If you’re sending literary gold and still getting a poor response rate, chances are your messages aren’t the problem.
It’s you. Or more specifically, your photos.
The best Tinder pick up lines in the world can’t combat terrible photos.
When she’s scrolling through your Tinder photos, she’s making snap judgments based on what she sees.
And we’re talking everything she sees, not just the obvious stuff like your face and body.
Your expression, your posture, your choice in clothes - she’s subconsciously soaking it all in, and judging you on it. This process - also called “thin slicing” - is how first impressions are formed.
Everyone does it - it’s basic human nature.
You did it the last time you killed a few minutes swiping right and left on apps like Tinder.
The good news is you can use this to your advantage by making sure your photos are attractive on all levels.
Further reading: Simple ways to improve your Tinder photos.
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