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Which Executive Matchmaker Is Right For You? [6 Great Options + Cost!]

Finding your ideal partner starts with hiring the right executive matchmaker. With so many options out there, starting with some savvy research is a wise move.

Our team of matchmaking experts has reviewed over 200 matchmakers, diving into their processes, success rates, cost, and more. With over 14 years of firsthand industry experience, we know exactly what singles like you value most in a service.

Start your search here, with these 6 top executive matchmakers!


Enamour website

This executive matchmaking service uses a blend of relationship psychology, AI, and the wisdom of intuition to pinpoint highly compatible matches for accomplished, selective professionals. 

The matchmaking team curates an exclusive, invitation-only database, and also leverages recruiting technology and an extensive network of scouts to vastly extend the search.

Cost & Contract

Matchmaking service starts around $20,000 for a 6-month search. Packages are tailored to fit each client’s search criteria and specific requirements. 

What To Expect 

Enamour is as selective about their clients as they are about the potential matches in their database. Potential clients start with an initial matchmaking consultation, during which you’ll share a bit about your relationship goals, lifestyle, and match preferences.

If you’re a good fit for the service and decide to move forward with a package, the next step is an interview with your dedicated personal matchmaker. This stage is all about getting to know you and your ideal match criteria, dealbreakers, and preferences.

Once the search begins, your matchmaker will vet compatible singles sourced from the exclusive database or via recruiting efforts. Each potential match must pass a screening process before being presented to you for approval. You’ll have the opportunity to review a full profile with photos. 

Date arrangements can be made on your behalf, and after each introduction your matchmaker will reach out to both of you. This feedback process will help your matchmaker tweak your search as needed, and you’ll gain insights into your dating process.

Enamour also offers a host of additional services, including personal styling, dating and relationship coaching, and image consulting.

VIDA Select (by Scott Valdez)

VIDA Select matchmaking

Founded in 2009 by executive matchmaker Scott Valdez, VIDA Select takes a modern approach that leverages the largest source of eligible singles there is. With VIDA, you can look forward to meeting matches who bring as much to the table as you do. 

Like Enamour, VIDA offers an array of services designed to complement the matchmaking process, including personal styling, professional photography, dating coaching, and image consulting.

Cost & Contract

Rather than requiring a multi-month contract, VIDA offers packages on a pay-as-you-go monthly basis. The final cost of your package will highly align with the number of hours your dedicated professional matchmaker will spend on your search, given the specificity of your criteria, number of cities you want included, etc.

Basic service begins at $1195, with Premium matchmaking packages starting at $1795. Elite packages start at just $2595 per month. 

On average, VIDA clients meet someone special in just 3 months of beginning service.

What To Expect 

After passing a quick screening, potential clients start with a complimentary consultation to learn more about the service and how it will work. After choosing the package that best fits your needs, you’ll be paired with your matchmaker. 

She’ll be with you every step of the way, and will get to know more about you, your lifestyle, and your relationship goals during an information-gathering session. Once she’s familiar with your ideal partner criteria, the search is on.

You’ll have the ability to accept or decline each potential match after reviewing a full profile complete with photos. You’re in the driver’s seat when it comes to who you want to meet! 

And thanks to the flexibility of ‘pay-as-you-go’ packages, you can pause and restart your search as needed to see where things go with a promising match. 

Selective Search (by Barbie Adler)

Selective Search matchmaking website

Before helping busy execs find love, Barbie Adler worked as an executive recruiter. In 2000, she launched Selective Search, applying her recruiting skills and strategies to matchmaking.

Selective Search works with both men and women as paying clients, however, according to Adler, around 70% of her clients are men. 

This matchmaking firm is based in Chicago but Adler works with a network of affiliated matchmakers in many major cities around the US. 

Cost & Contract

Introductory packages at Selective Search start around $25,000 to $50,000, but clients must meet certain criteria to be eligible for this option. 

Typically, a year-long contract runs between $75,000 and $250,000. Depending on your criteria and included concierge services, contracts could hit 7 figures.

Selective Search also offers the Candidate Program, which is complimentary and consists of having your profile included in the database. 

This is an option for both men and women, however keep in mind it is a passive membership. While you will have to pass the same screening process that clients go through, you'll only be contacted if you align with a paying member's preferences. 

You may never meet anyone this way.

What To Expect 

Clients go through what Adler calls her “Meet Your Future” process. It starts with a 2-hour interview, where you can expect to complete around 15 pages of thought-provoking questions outlining your match preferences and romantic goals. 

This information is assembled into a "Benchmarks" document that guides your matchmaker as she looks for suitable matches. Candidates are sourced from Adler’s database, and if your package includes it, proactively scouted.

Potential matches are vetted for compatibility. If they pass the screening process, you’ll receive a presentation to review. At that point, you can agree to meet the match, have your matchmaker provide additional information if you have questions, or pass and have the search continue.

After each date, your matchmaker checks in with both you and your match to gather feedback and insights.

Further Reading

Selective Search Reviews

Linx Dating (by Amy Andersen)

Linx Dating

Linx Dating, founded by Amy Andersen in 2003, specializes in matchmaking for Silicon Valley singles. But this executive matchmaker also works with singles in Los Angeles as well as abroad, with a presence in Europe and Asia as well. 

Like many high-end firms, Linx Dating also provides concierge services such as wardrobe styling, date coaching, proposal planning, and more. 

Cost & Contract

Matchmaking memberships start around $45,000, with VIP packages starting around $100,000 and ranging up to $500,000 or more.

Contracts span 2 years and include 4 months of hold time.

What To Expect 

Potential clients start by filling out a request for contact form on the Linx website, which includes answering basic questions about you and your ideal match. Linx Dating does not provide a phone number for prospective clients to call their office directly.

Once someone from their team has reviewed your inquiry, you'll receive a follow-up email with any additional questions the matchmaking team has for you. Next up is a 90-minute consultation with Andersen that costs several hundred dollars.

During this initial consultation, Andersen will learn more about what qualities you're looking for in an ideal partner and your future relationship goals. This meeting is also when you'll learn about the specifics of matchmaking memberships and choose which level of service is right for you. 

If you’d like to meet matches sourced from outside of Linx’s internal database or those from beyond your local area, you’ll need to purchase a VIP membership.

Further Reading

Linx Dating Reviews

Select Date Society (by Amber Lee & Sandra Myers)

Select Date Society website homepage

Amber Lee and Sandra Myers, the duo who co-founded Select Date Society, first crossed paths while they were both working at a national dating service back in 2009.

They launched their own executive matchmaking service in 2020, headquartered in Richmond, Virginia. A national service, they have a presence in over 30 major cities around the US.

Lee and Myers work with singles from their 20s to their 70s. According to Lee, their clientele includes celebrities, executives, and professional athletes, among professionals. 

Cost & Contract

If you want to work directly with Myers and Lee you'll need to purchase the Executive VIP Level package. This top-tier service could cost you upwards of $300,000+. The duo only works with 5 clients at this level at any given time. 

Select Date Society also offers Concierge and Platinum packages, where you’ll be working with the matchmaking team. The Concierge package starts at $50,000, you’ll be meeting matches from the database that the team has selected and approved.

For a targeted search that includes recruiting, as well as the ability to pre-approve the matches you want to meet, you’ll need to opt for the more expensive Platinum package.  

What To Expect 

After submitting an online inquiry a member of the SDS team will reach out to schedule a consultation. During this meeting, they'll delve into your dating history, discuss expectations, and go over their approach to matchmaking. 

If there's a mutual agreement to work together, you'll sign a matchmaking agreement and pay for your matchmaking package upfront.

As part of the SDS process, you'll complete an Enneagram personality test that gives your matchmaker deeper insight into your character and personality.

As a paying client, you will be matched with other clients, database members, or specially scouted candidates. The scope of your matches depends on your selected package level.

Further Reading

Select Date Society Reviews

Lisa Clampitt Matchmaking  

Lisa Clampitt Matchmaking homepage

An executive matchmaker based in New York City, Lisa Clampitt embarked on her matchmaking journey under the mentorship of Patti Stanger, founder of Millionaire’s Club

In 2001, Clampitt launched her own boutique service, VIP Life, which she later rebranded as Lisa Clampitt Matchmaking. 

Clampitt also founded the Matchmaking Institute in 2003, which is recognized as the nation's only program dedicated to training and certifying matchmakers.

Cost & Contract

Clampitt offers 3 membership packages: Silver, Gold, and Platinum. Pricing starts around $50,000 and can range over $75,000, with the final price determined by factors like whether you want the search to extend outside of the database. 

Membership extends for 1 ½ years, but only half a year is devoted to "active matching". The remaining year is considered "hold time," allowing you to temporarily pause your membership. 

As a paying client, you can typically expect to be introduced to between 2 and 4 matches during each active month of your service.

What To Expect 

Clampitt offers a boutique matchmaking experience, working with only around 30 clients at any given time. The predominantly male clientele falls into the 40s to 50s age range, although she does work with clients in their 20s up to 60s. 

She does have a handful of female clients, however, most women she works with are part of her singles database.

If you're interested in becoming a client, your first step is a free consultation. To get things rolling, you can either submit an online inquiry or call their offices directly. 

This initial consultation allows you to learn about the matchmaking process, share what you're looking for in an ideal partner, and see if you're a good fit for their services.

As a paying client, you're presented with photos and background information of suggested matches for you to either approve or pass. If someone piques your interest, the team will see if the interest is mutual. If so, the date will be scheduled for you. 

Further Reading

Lisa Clampitt Matchmaking Reviews

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