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Top 5 Online Dating Profile Tips For Guys [Updated 2021]

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Online Dating Profile Tips

Whether you’ve had your online dating profile for years or you just started writing it, these top 5 dating profile tips will attract beautiful, smart women online – and entice them to actually respond to your messages.

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Tip #1: Lead With The “Perfect” Online Dating Photo (And Choose The Rest Wisely, Too)

A strong primary photo will make – or break – your profile. Hiring a professional to snap your picture in a natural environment is a great way to go, but if you want to use photos you already have, choose them wisely.

The first photo is arguably the one that will have the biggest impact your results. On dating apps where a single swipe determines your fate, it’s what will basically determine your match rate.

And on dating sites, it shows up front and center in her search results.

That’s a lot riding on one photo, but don’t worry. A team of neuroscientists determined the most attractive traits successful Tinder photos have in common – and they’ll work just as well on any other date or app.

Follow these profile photo rules, and you’ll be golden:

 dating profile photo tips

Keep these simple DOs and DON’Ts in mind:

      • Pick photos where you are the center of attention
      • Demonstrate a lifestyle she wants to be a part of
      • Show off your hobbies and interests in your photos
      • Use at least 3 but no more than 7 pictures
      • Get feedback from your female friends, online at sites like PhotoFeeler.com, or turn on Tinder’s SmartPhotos feature
      • Use racy or suggestive photos
      • Choose all group shots
      • Select photos taken with flash (it adds 7 years to your age)

For even more tips on selecting perfect profile pictures, check out this article.

Women are going to form an impression of you within 1/10th of a second based on your photos, so make them count.

Tip #2: Don’t Blow Your Chances With A Lame Username

Some dating sites, like PlentyOfFish, Match, and MillionaireMatch, give you the option to go with a username rather than your first name.

It can be a great way to stand out in a creative way, but it’s also one of the first things a woman sees when she visits your profile – and that makes it an important element to get right.

bad username example

If she’s attractive, her inbox is crammed full of messages from guys just like you. And if your username bores – or worse, repels her, she’s going to skip your message and click on the one that catches her eye instead.

Good usernames make her curious to learn more about you. Here are a few examples of usernames for guys that work:

  • AheadOfThePack
  • ChallengingFate
  • BuiltToLast

Note they also start with letters in the first half of the alphabet. Not only will your name pop up closer to the top of alphabetized search results, but research shows some measures of success, like education and income levels, are linked with names higher in the alphabet.

Choose something that highlights a trait women find generally attractive or puts a spin on a hobby or interest of yours.

Don’t just add a few random numbers to your name, or go with something that’s linked to a negative emotion, like being sad or lonely.

bad username example

There are a lot of “LonelyHearts” and “Looking4Loves” out there – and there’s a reason those guys are still on dating sites.

Click here for even more tips on how to create a catchy username.

Tip #3: Roll With A Funny & Engaging Dating Profile Headline

Many dating sites also feature short a headline alongside your photo and username in search results.

If you are worried your headline isn’t creative enough, don’t stress yourself out. This article will tell you everything you need to know about writing the perfect headline.

But here’s a quick summary: Your headline should be catchy and enticing.

Avoid general greetings or obvious/cliche lines like “Hey”, “Headline goes here” and “Looking for my dream girl.” Those aren’t going to catch her eye, or even worse, will make her roll them.

You’ll also want to avoid anything that gives off a negative vibe. Emotions are powerful things, and if your profile gets linked in her mind with experiencing a negative one, your odds of meeting her just plummeted.

You may feel lonely, bitter, or judgemental while you’re writing your online dating profile, but the last thing you want to do is let it show.

bad headline example

For the most positive impact, choose a headline that shows you are confident, witty, and have something interesting to offer. Think along the lines of “Open at your own risk” or “Hope you’ve got a passport.”

Make her laugh or make her curious and she’ll be more likely to click on your profile.

Tip #4: Write A Winning Profile Using This Easy Formula!

She’s attracted to your photo and wooed by your username and headline. Next up? Your profile. This is the meat of your online dating personality, so it’s important to do it right.

So, what should you say in your dating profile?

This 4-step profile writing formula is practically foolproof, and perfect for a dating site like Match.com:

Match Profile Formula

You really want to focus on the very first line, because some dating sites will display the first sentence or two in her search results. If it doesn’t instantly hook her, why would she want to read any more?

bad dating profile example

Read this article for a breakdown on how to write a winning online dating profile in 60 minutes or less.

But for the time being, here are 4 key tips to make your online dating profile more attractive:

      • Don’t just list adjectives and personality traits. Tell stories that illustrate those qualities instead.
      • Use proper grammar and spelling. You’ve got spell check, so no excuses.
      • Be authentic, and don’t just write what you think women want to read. Studies show women are more attracted to a man who seems genuine.
      • Make your profile around 70-75% about you, and 25-30% about what you’re looking for.  
Bonus Pro Tip: When using dating sites like Match.com and OkCupid, refresh your profile regularly. Making small changes to your content or changing up your photos will send your profile straight to the front page of her search results. Click here for expert online dating profile help.

Tip #5. Create A Consistent Identity Throughout Your Entire Online Dating Profile

When a woman looks at your photos and reads your profile, she should be able to create a mental image of who you are.

But if your photos contradict what you say in your profile, chances are she’s going to feel like something isn’t quite right and move on.

Think of it this way – if your profile says you prefer staying in and relaxing at home on the weekends, but all of your photos are of you out clubbing and getting wasted, she’s not going to know what to believe. And she’s probably not going to reply to your message.

Think of a statement or two that you would like women viewing your profile to associate with you.

Something like, “He’s a witty businessman who loves to travel” or “He’s a sensitive artist that is passionate about skiing”. Next, go through your profile and photos and make sure everything contributes to this image. Or even better, have a female friend go through it and ask for her first impressions.

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